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to have laughed when my fil told my dh

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biddysmama Sun 28-Aug-11 22:33:12

that he should stop me from breastfeeding now as dd is too old? (shes 2,ds is 1 and im pg)

do people do what their husbands tell them to? ive got a mind of my own thanks very much grin

MadamDeathstare Sun 28-Aug-11 22:34:38

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FabbyChic Sun 28-Aug-11 22:35:11

Personally she is too old, she needs to be becoming more independant. I always find it weird that someone would breastfeed a walking child.

bubblesincoffee Sun 28-Aug-11 22:35:14

Well I would take my husband's opinion into account when it comes to how his child is fed.

But I wouldn't take my Fathers.

thisisyesterday Sun 28-Aug-11 22:37:25

really fabby? my ds1 walked at 8.5 months

op, no yanbu! aside from anything else it's none of his business!

ImperialBlether Sun 28-Aug-11 22:37:26

Are you breastfeeding both your son and your daughter?

I think that once you are pregnant you owe it to the unborn child to stop breastfeeding.

A two year old doesn't need to breastfeed. It's a habit and once which eventually she will lose. You can encourage this or not.

I'm of the opinion that a mother who feeds a child who is long past babyhood does it as much for herself as for the child, but that's got me shrieked at before now.

birdsofshoreandsea Sun 28-Aug-11 22:37:36

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birdsofshoreandsea Sun 28-Aug-11 22:39:19

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thisisyesterday Sun 28-Aug-11 22:39:56

"I think that once you are pregnant you owe it to the unborn child to stop breastfeeding. "

why? do you tihnk the unborn baby will care?

biddysmama Sun 28-Aug-11 22:40:20

nice yes i do, 2 year old has one feed a day, 1 year old has a few.... my midwife knows and is very supportive and my hv knows aswell as it was recorded at her 2 year check in the box that asks if they still have bm (as recommended by the world health organisation) obviously this is the 2 pregnancy i have bf through, as dd bf through ds pregnancy... he was born at 41 weeks weighing 9lb 4 oz so i dont think it did him any harm?

elliejjtiny Sun 28-Aug-11 22:40:54

If my fil had said that to me I'd be very tempted to put expressed breastmilk in his tea (although I wouldn't be quite brave enough to do it)

MmeLindor. Sun 28-Aug-11 22:41:00

Oh, this is going well.

Do you still feed both children, Biddysmama? Good for you.

rhondajean Sun 28-Aug-11 22:41:25

My husband tries to tell me what to do from time to time smile

He is a very brave man.

On a serious note, if he really objected to something I was doing, Id think it over carefully, but he would never tell me not to do something he knew mattered to me. I try to think of the best thing for all of us when I make a decision, he knows that, and tries to support me with the decision.

I think thats what you are asking about rather than the bf issue isnt it? FIL may come from a different generation remember.

LoonyRationalist Sun 28-Aug-11 22:43:57

How your children are fed is a matter for you and your husband only. Does your fil expect your dh to agree with him. As long as you are both happy then ignore ignore ignore. smile

Xales Sun 28-Aug-11 22:44:35

OMG a 2 year old, a 1 year old and one on the way!!!! I think you are insane, one was enough for me grin

It is your choice completely. Why would any man not your H even think they had any right to make a comment?

Perhaps he would like to suggest to your DH that you cannot wear above the knee skirts or maybe jeans also.

EvenLessNarkyPuffin Sun 28-Aug-11 22:46:51

'I'm of the opinion that a mother who feeds a child who is long past babyhood does it as much for herself as for the child'

Yes. Much better to stop them BF and give them cow's milk instead hmm

ProcrastinatorGeneral Sun 28-Aug-11 22:48:00

If it was your husband expressing a view then I think it would be good to engage and debate. Your father in law can go whistle though.

<neatly avoids angering either side of the ebf debate>

squeakytoy Sun 28-Aug-11 22:49:23

I find it weird that a child who is able to pick up a spoon and feed themselves would need to be breastfed, but thats my personal opinion, and I would respect a mother to do what she feels is right for her, as it is nobody elses business really..

Marshy Sun 28-Aug-11 22:51:00

Your husband should stop you from b/f? Hmm, I don't think so, do you? Of course he can express an opinion, but it's up to you - your breasts, after all.
FIL really needs to mind his own business

And as for not b/f a walking child - what?? Sorry, don't get that at all.

Minshu Sun 28-Aug-11 22:51:19

Feeding a 2 yo, a 1 yo and growing another baby - you're amazing!

Tell your DH what you think FIL should do about his hair.

thisisyesterday Sun 28-Aug-11 22:51:26

again, 2 out of 3 of my kids could use a spoon by about 9 months.... why would that lessen the benefits of having breastmilk?

pranma Sun 28-Aug-11 22:51:42

It is no one's business but yours and maybe a little of your dh.Your f-i-l has no place in the discussion at all.

ImperialBlether Sun 28-Aug-11 22:51:46

EvenLess, there's nothing actually wrong with cow's milk for a two year old, unless you are allergic to dairy, of course.

If you think there is, at what age would you think a mother should stop breastfeeding? Should you wait until the child can ask to stop? Or write a note?

EvenLessNarkyPuffin Sun 28-Aug-11 22:52:11

So, you'd say no after 6 months Squeaky Toy? Despite the fact that babies must have milk until one? Or would it be ok if the OP expressed it first?

MadamDeathstare Sun 28-Aug-11 22:54:19

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