We have just come back from holiday and are quite broke so have been doing extra shifts most weekend nights to make ends meet. MY DH was complaining that he is not happy that i am working so many weekends because it "dosent allow him to do anything" meaning go out with his mates. I was quite upset as I am working hard to make ends meet and he sees it as a cog in the wheel of his "social life" we have two kids so when i work nights he has to look after them they sleep through the night etc. Am I being unreasonable to expect more support and encouragement at my trying to get us out of our dire financial situation without the hassle.
Why not point out to the asshole that whilst you are working you are not working so he can spend the money going out, but to ensure your children are fed and you have a roof over your heads. Pointless you doing extra shifts if the asshole is going to be spending it on a night out.
Tell him that he has responsibilities and it is about time he took them seriously before he considered his social life or lack thereof.
YANBU - is he in denial about your financial situation? Do you need to have a chat about how much your overtime brings in towards it?
I'm not completely convinced he deserves it, but if he can be more reasonable, maybe you could find one night in the future he could go out and then not work that one - or can you not really afford for him to have a night out anyway?