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Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 20:53:46

We live in a flat, next door to us are more flats. The downstairs neighbours are weird, I've mentioned them before.

They turn up at our door at all ours expecting us to give them lifts (we never have), or take in animals that they've "rescued" even though they can't house them. Both times they've done this we've had a pet dog that they knew hated other animals.

They turned up one day, said "can you sew?", when I said yes, they handed me a cuddly toy and told me to fix it. Then complained when the thread I used wasn't an exact match! (I only did it as I was too surprised to say no)

When we moved in (it's a council house) we had no carpets etc as the council had ripped them all out. So we were warning them that it'd be noisy. They told us that the previous tenants, who they described as "nig nogs", probably ripped out the carpets as they were cheap.

So real charmers. hmm

We do our best to avoid them, but they tend to spend their whole time looking out the windows and will come running out the door every time we go in or out of the house. Which was a nightmare when we were dog walking regularly. We've been trying to be civil but distant, as we don't fancy a spat with the neighbours, even idiots like them!

Recently they've been coming to us and complaining about their upstairs neighbours. They are a lovely couple with a 2 year old kid, but the crazy neighbours keep trying to get us to complain about the noise. They turned up the other day with a police incident report form! They wanted us to write down every time we heard a noise from the upstairs neighbours (our flat is also upstairs, so they back onto us)

Obviously I'm not going to, as they are really quiet. Obviously with a small child they aren't always as quiet as the grave, but no (sane) person could complain about the minimal noise their child makes!

However, as we were given the form, we thought we'd warn the neighbours and give them the name on the form if they wanted to pre-empt it.

Poor girl was almost in tears. Turns out the shit we had to put up with from these idiots is nothing compared to what she does!

They go through her bins!
If someone knocks at her door, they open theirs and stand around listening.
They give her husband abuse for not being British, and not having a British name.
They wont let her leave the house without harassing her about keeping her child quiet.
They yell at her at 3pm to be quiet because they want to sleep (they don't work, so it's not that they are doing shifts or anything).

Wish I could do something to help her. She's moving away, despite the area being perfect for her, because she can't cope with them. She tries to never be at home as she doesn't feel she can relax there.

I wish they'd go and she'd stay!

Everyone in the cul-de-sac has had hassle from them sad

How can people like that think their behaviour is in any way ok?!

fifitrixibellesmith Sat 27-Aug-11 20:58:06

if she contacted the police, they would address the racial incidents, they are obliged to

OhGreatOne Sat 27-Aug-11 20:58:29

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 20:59:56

I may do, worried it'd be written off as me interfering confused

DogsBestFriend Sat 27-Aug-11 21:07:54

Complain to yout housing manager and also see if your council have an Anti Social Behaviour officer and lodge a complaint there if so. Also keep a diary of the idiot's behaviour and encourage other neighbours to do the same.

Lastly, have a word with your local beat Bobby and see what they suggest or call the local police station for advice.

The website Neighbours From Hell might also be a source of advice and support.

HTH, I feel for you, it must be bloody misery.

Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 21:08:43

Doesn't bother us so much, but I feel so bad for my neighbour (the nice one) sad

Tchootnika Sat 27-Aug-11 21:19:51

Empusa - have you spoken to your (nice) neighbour about possibly reporting the crazy ones to the police?

Probably she needs to report them, but could do with your support. Also, she may not realise that what they're doing is actionable by the police.

ripstheirthroatoutliveupstairs Sat 27-Aug-11 21:20:30

That is really sad. We left Switzerland, partly because of a neighbour. I would do as others have advised and try to report them.
Does your nice neighbour have somewhere to go when she leaves?

Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 21:21:59

Tchootnika I will suggest that to her when I see her next smile

rips She's house hunting now, so hopefully she'll find somewhere wonderful and forget all about these nasty idiots

YouDoTheMath Sat 27-Aug-11 21:35:32

Definitely report them. Why should other people be driven away whilst they get to stay? They seem to interfere to a very odd level - does it not occur to them to leave others alone and let them have some privacy in their homes?

You can guarantee they'll behave the same way towards whoever moves in next - but from your point of view, the new tenant might not be as nice as you current nice neighbour. I'd act now if I were you.

Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 21:38:24

We're wondering whether they'll turn on us once we have a newborn.

I hope, for the new neighbours sake, they are white english. I'd hate for anyone not white english to be stuck with the racist twats as neighbours sad

We think it's the only reason they don't treat us so badly. Could explain why there are so few ethnic minorities in our street sad

Tchootnika Sat 27-Aug-11 21:45:28

I hope, for the new neighbours sake, they are white english. I'd hate for anyone not white english to be stuck with the racist twats as neighbours

FGS, report these arseholes to the police.
ISWYM if you're wanting to keep the peace, or whatever, but you're talking about serious criminal behaviour.

mankymink Sat 27-Aug-11 21:46:51

That's outrageous, they sound like a fucking nightmare.

Definitely do something about it now, especially now that you've got someone else on your side (nice neighbour) to vouch for how crazy they are. I know you're expecting a backlash from them but just be as civil as possible and keep as much distance as you can.

These people can't continue to intimidate the rest of the bloody building.

Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 21:47:25

I know, will try and persuade neighbour to talk to them. Not sure there's much the police could do with my complaint is there? All I could say is that they use racist terms and that the neighbours have told me they get hassle about the husband not being English.

If you think they will be able to do anything with just that, then I definitely will.

YouDoTheMath Sat 27-Aug-11 21:47:54

Having a new baby will be stressful enough without them on your case. Seriously, don't let them get away with this shite anymore.

Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 21:49:17

Definitely writing to the local council about them though.

Tchootnika Sat 27-Aug-11 21:49:53

The police should investigate if you report that, as you'd be reporting a crime.

Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 21:50:48

Ok smile good to know

Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 21:52:04

I know what I'm doing tomorrow now!

mankymink Sat 27-Aug-11 21:54:22

Good luck Empusa smile

Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 21:55:00

It's probably too little too late for the current neighbours sad But I hope iot saves anyone else

Tchootnika Sat 27-Aug-11 21:58:15

If it's dealt with then for sure it will help someone.
Very good luck, Empusa
Please let us know what happens.

YouDoTheMath Sat 27-Aug-11 22:05:12

Defo let us know! Good luck.

Empusa Sat 27-Aug-11 22:09:36

Will do.

Those fuckers can try turning on me and DH, I'd like to see them go against my hormones at the moment! grin

Empusa Sun 28-Aug-11 16:54:14

Police have just gone to the neighbours (nice) door, we didn't call them. Hope they are ok sad

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