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AIBU?

to put them in the spare room or on the sofa bed?

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GeneralCustardsHardHat · 26/08/2011 20:43

We have guests to stay quite frequently sometimes when the kids are here and sometimes when they're at their dads and it is pretty well known one of them has a double bed (a cast off that was too good/new to throw out following a move not purposefully bought for them!). Now we've got people staying this weekend (we've not got my DC's) who are running incredibly late and we've sorted the spare room out for them, i've said to them when they get in the room will be ready for them and was met with:

"oh, we were hoping we'd be staying in DC's bedroom as it always looks so much more comfortable"

Now the spare has a double in it and the sofa bed is also a double so they're it's not like they're being hard done by by being put in the spare room it's just it's not as homely as DC's room (for obvious reasons, it's not lived in!) but it's clean, nicely decorated and is what it is, a guest room.

AIBU to not want my childs personal space invaded in such a manner, to think their bed is their bed and that my house guests have got a bloody cheek to ask? I'm just wanting to go to bed now i've been at work since 7am and i'm knackered so well aware this could be clouding my judgement :(

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squeakytoy · 26/08/2011 20:44

A double bed is a double bed, they are being cheeky gits!

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misdee · 26/08/2011 20:45

your children stil have the right to their privacy even when not there.

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Panzee · 26/08/2011 20:46

You can't choose where you sleep when you're a guest.

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EveryonesJealousOfWeasleys · 26/08/2011 20:46

Tell them they can like it or lump it! It's not a blardy hotel!

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kendalmintcake · 26/08/2011 20:47

how odd!

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thisisyesterday · 26/08/2011 20:47

yanbu!

what a cheeky pair!

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Carrotsandcelery · 26/08/2011 20:48

I loathe having overnight guests so I am probably not unbiased but YANBU.

They cannot expect to have someone else's bed, especially if that person is in the house. That strikes me as an invasion of privacy.

Just put them in the spare room and leave them to get on with it.

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GeneralCustardsHardHat · 26/08/2011 20:48

I'm glad i'm not being unduly unreasonable. I just have a feeling I may have to leave DP to sort this out because i'm getting to that point of tiredness where my head hurts and i'll get snappy if they ask again when they get here. Not exactly a great start to the bank holiday.

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blackeyedsusan · 26/08/2011 20:50

yanbu. it is not your bed to lend.

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acsec · 26/08/2011 20:50

How rude of them to expect to be able to sleep in your DC's room! They can have the spare room or not stay!

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DontGoCurly · 26/08/2011 20:51

Send the kids to bed early (with treats) problem solved!

YANBU -cheeky gits.

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lifechanger · 26/08/2011 20:51

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cjbartlett · 26/08/2011 20:51

How overfamiliar of them!

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Blu · 26/08/2011 20:51

Ridiculous and a bit weird to want your DC's bed. And it would involve more sheet swapping. Take no notice.

I am assuming that by stealth you will not reveal that the spare room is in a leaky shed at the bottom of the garden?

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Iteotwawki · 26/08/2011 20:51

YANBU, they are. Your child's room is theirs whether they are in it or not - I would never treat my sons' room as a space that is free for all if they happen not to be in it one weekend.

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GeneralCustardsHardHat · 26/08/2011 20:54

lifechanger yes i sleep there fairly regularly if DP has had a few drinks as he snores louder than a steam engine :o it's perfectly comfortable to me, as is the sofa bed downstairs

blu damn it how did you guess? :o

I think i'm going to leave my laptop open on the table with this thread on it for them and disappear to bed :o

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HeiferLump · 26/08/2011 20:54

YANBU, they are being really, really rude.

In your shoes I'd politely say, when they arrive, "I know you usually stay in X's room but since we have the luxury of a guest room I'd prefer to use it rather than disrupt DC" :)

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MCos · 26/08/2011 20:55

Totally agree. They are not being reasonable, and being very cheeky.

Are they friends/relatives of your, or of your DP?

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LineRunner · 26/08/2011 20:56

Do people really say shit like that? Jeez. YANBU.

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GeneralCustardsHardHat · 26/08/2011 20:57

MCos both of us, so i'm more than happy to jump ship and let him deal with it :o

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skybluepearl · 26/08/2011 20:57

just say you ddin't have the energy to sort DC's bedroom out as it was late in the day

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Grumpla · 26/08/2011 20:58

Who ARE these people and what fucking planet are they from?

Offer them the dog's bed instead.

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Bogeyface · 26/08/2011 21:00

Strip the bed.

Quick, easy and makes it clear that it is spare room or no romm!

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thisisyesterday · 26/08/2011 21:01

if they ask when they get there just say "oh no, I don't think DC would be very happy with that" and then fake laugh a bit so they know you think it's a FUNNY JOKE they are making

then point to the freshly made-up guest room

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herbietea · 26/08/2011 21:01

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