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to put them in the spare room or on the sofa bed?

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We have guests to stay quite frequently sometimes when the kids are here and sometimes when they're at their dads and it is pretty well known one of them has a double bed (a cast off that was too good/new to throw out following a move not purposefully bought for them!). Now we've got people staying this weekend (we've not got my DC's) who are running incredibly late and we've sorted the spare room out for them, i've said to them when they get in the room will be ready for them and was met with:

"oh, we were hoping we'd be staying in DC's bedroom as it always looks so much more comfortable"

Now the spare has a double in it and the sofa bed is also a double so they're it's not like they're being hard done by by being put in the spare room it's just it's not as homely as DC's room (for obvious reasons, it's not lived in!) but it's clean, nicely decorated and is what it is, a guest room.

AIBU to not want my childs personal space invaded in such a manner, to think their bed is their bed and that my house guests have got a bloody cheek to ask? I'm just wanting to go to bed now i've been at work since 7am and i'm knackered so well aware this could be clouding my judgement sad

squeakytoy Fri 26-Aug-11 20:44:49

A double bed is a double bed, they are being cheeky gits!

misdee Fri 26-Aug-11 20:45:17

your children stil have the right to their privacy even when not there.

Panzee Fri 26-Aug-11 20:46:21

You can't choose where you sleep when you're a guest.

EveryonesJealousOfWeasleys Fri 26-Aug-11 20:46:43

Tell them they can like it or lump it! It's not a blardy hotel!

kendalmintcake Fri 26-Aug-11 20:47:21

how odd!

thisisyesterday Fri 26-Aug-11 20:47:27


what a cheeky pair!

Carrotsandcelery Fri 26-Aug-11 20:48:28

I loathe having overnight guests so I am probably not unbiased but YANBU.

They cannot expect to have someone else's bed, especially if that person is in the house. That strikes me as an invasion of privacy.

Just put them in the spare room and leave them to get on with it.

I'm glad i'm not being unduly unreasonable. I just have a feeling I may have to leave DP to sort this out because i'm getting to that point of tiredness where my head hurts and i'll get snappy if they ask again when they get here. Not exactly a great start to the bank holiday.

blackeyedsusan Fri 26-Aug-11 20:50:24

yanbu. it is not your bed to lend.

acsec Fri 26-Aug-11 20:50:40

How rude of them to expect to be able to sleep in your DC's room! They can have the spare room or not stay!

DontGoCurly Fri 26-Aug-11 20:51:00

Send the kids to bed early (with treats) problem solved!

YANBU -cheeky gits.

lifechanger Fri 26-Aug-11 20:51:10

Have you slept on your bed sofa recently? One housekeeping book I had as a young wife (more years ago than I care to remember) suggested that the hosts sleep in their own spare room every 6 months to see how comfortable it is for their guests.

Bed sofas can be REALLY uncomfortable sometimes. I'm sure you wouldn't want a guest in your home to be uncomfortable if it was avoidable.

Having said that, they are cheeky to mention it.

cjbartlett Fri 26-Aug-11 20:51:15

How overfamiliar of them!

Blu Fri 26-Aug-11 20:51:17

Ridiculous and a bit weird to want your DC's bed. And it would involve more sheet swapping. Take no notice.

I am assuming that by stealth you will not reveal that the spare room is in a leaky shed at the bottom of the garden?

Iteotwawki Fri 26-Aug-11 20:51:22

YANBU, they are. Your child's room is theirs whether they are in it or not - I would never treat my sons' room as a space that is free for all if they happen not to be in it one weekend.

lifechanger yes i sleep there fairly regularly if DP has had a few drinks as he snores louder than a steam engine grin it's perfectly comfortable to me, as is the sofa bed downstairs

blu damn it how did you guess? grin

I think i'm going to leave my laptop open on the table with this thread on it for them and disappear to bed grin

HeiferLump Fri 26-Aug-11 20:54:34

YANBU, they are being really, really rude.

In your shoes I'd politely say, when they arrive, "I know you usually stay in X's room but since we have the luxury of a guest room I'd prefer to use it rather than disrupt DC" smile <polite but don't-shit-with-me-mofos smile>

MCos Fri 26-Aug-11 20:55:47

Totally agree. They are not being reasonable, and being very cheeky.

Are they friends/relatives of your, or of your DP?

LineRunner Fri 26-Aug-11 20:56:54

Do people really say shit like that? Jeez. YANBU.

MCos both of us, so i'm more than happy to jump ship and let him deal with it grin

skybluepearl Fri 26-Aug-11 20:57:34

just say you ddin't have the energy to sort DC's bedroom out as it was late in the day

Grumpla Fri 26-Aug-11 20:58:50

Who ARE these people and what fucking planet are they from?

Offer them the dog's bed instead.

Bogeyface Fri 26-Aug-11 21:00:42

Strip the bed.

Quick, easy and makes it clear that it is spare room or no romm!

thisisyesterday Fri 26-Aug-11 21:01:27

if they ask when they get there just say "oh no, I don't think DC would be very happy with that" and then fake laugh a bit so they know you think it's a FUNNY JOKE they are making

then point to the freshly made-up guest room

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