Advanced search

AIBU to use incense even though DH hates it?

(33 Posts)
Fatshionista Thu 25-Aug-11 15:28:26

I hate how my house smells stale and like wet dog despite our dog being clean and the windows being open constantly. DH can't stand artificial air fresheners or even Febreeze so I bought vanilla incense.

AIBU to light them in the main areas of the house even though DH's cats bum face annoys me? I love the smell.


MrsTerryPratchett Thu 25-Aug-11 15:30:17

Could you get essential oils instead? Or one of those oil diffusers. I am with DH, Febreeze is repulsive.

KurriKurri Thu 25-Aug-11 15:32:53

No YANBU - it's your house too. I have the same problem, I love incense DH hates it (he also hates scented candles -he's the son of a fireman, and assumes I will burn the house down!).

I use it when he's out.

ripstheirthroatoutliveupstairs Thu 25-Aug-11 15:33:33

YABVU IMO. But, I do loathe incence. What about a neutodol airfreshener. They absorb smells allegedly.

Scaevola Thu 25-Aug-11 15:33:41

Vanilla incense is probably an artificial scent.

I think natural products (like essential oils, as mentioned above) are likely to be more acceptable. (I'm assuming that you do want to find a mutually acceptable solution in your shared accommodation, not just annoy DH - though of course you may have your reasons for that instead).

scrambedeggs Thu 25-Aug-11 15:34:11

fake smells are awful, really make my sinuses hurt, incense reminds me of church, not terrible but can do without it

squeakytoy Thu 25-Aug-11 15:35:06

It is unfair to make the house stink of something that another person living there hates the smell of.

We dont have air fresheners or many other artificial smells / chemicals in the house either as neither of us can stand the overpowering smell of them.

I do use Oust, to spray on the rug where the dog lies, and I have the windows open to let fresh air in.

SoupDragon Thu 25-Aug-11 15:37:43

Think of something you absolutely hate and which affects you and imagine your DH doing it despite your wishes.

SoupDragon Thu 25-Aug-11 15:38:32

Besides, your house now smells of stale wet dog overlaid with vanilla incense.

Sofabitch Thu 25-Aug-11 15:38:43

YABU I can't abide them they make my breathing tight and make me feel dizzy. I can not have them anywhere near me. They are gross. Buy some essential oils and put a drop or 2 in boiling water. Or a burner. Buy flowers that smell nice. Open windows use zoflora to mop floors wipe sides etc. There are other ways to make your house smell nice

Fatshionista Thu 25-Aug-11 15:39:16

He doesn't hate the smell but would prefer it not to be there. He's pretty easy going so I've stopped the Febreeze and Oust (I think I was addicted) and moved on to incense which I thought would be acceptable.

He's not said anything yet but I can tell when I lit it he had a cats bum face. Would prefer the house not to smell stale or artificial, just fresh and homely.

Where can I buy essential oils and do I burn them or put them on something? Oh I don't have a clue!

LeBJOF Thu 25-Aug-11 15:40:27

Vanilla is a particularly offensive smell. It makes me feel sick.

MadamDeathstare Thu 25-Aug-11 15:42:24

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Sn0wGoose Thu 25-Aug-11 15:44:22

YABU. It's his house too. If it smells of wet dog, open a window.

Sn0wGoose Thu 25-Aug-11 15:44:53

(lol@ soupdragon )

diddl Thu 25-Aug-11 15:47:29

I think that that´s really horrible to do that tbh.

How come your house smells stale if the windows are open as much as possible?

Is there nothing at all he would´t object to?

deepheat Thu 25-Aug-11 15:48:21

Why not discuss the incense thing with your husband while eating a nut-roast and listening to world music. I'm sure you'll both tap into a sense of global harmony.


On a vaguely related note, does anyone know any good products for getting rid of the smell of my DD weeing on our living room carpet? Potty training went a little wrong earlier in the week.

Apologies for the blatant hijack but the people who have the answers don't go on the potty training threads any more....

scuzy Thu 25-Aug-11 15:49:41

not fair on your other half. its his house too.

why not tackle the cause of the smell instead of masking it ... washing dog more often, change shampoo wash his bed or move it.

TotemPole Thu 25-Aug-11 16:05:18

Fatshionista, maybe the carpets and soft furnishings could do with a wash/dry clean?

Do the shake and vac and put the freshness back. You have to sing and wiggle your bottom while doing this.

Fatshionista Thu 25-Aug-11 16:11:05

I have put the incense out and we have agreed on scented candles in mild scents such as lavender and honey. Middle ground grin.

Nobody thinks the house smells except me. We air out, clean and vaccum regularly etc. I think I am paranoid or going crazy about smells.

We are in a rented house and two small DD's, one still in napies, two adults and a dog make me think how can the house not have a scent?

But still, candles! A compromise grin

DecapitatedLegoman Thu 25-Aug-11 16:11:23

FGS address the smell, don't add to it with rank fake odours.

Bicarbonate sprinkled over carpets and soft furnishings, rubbed in and left for an hour then hoovered off. Dog groomed regularly and dog bedding washed with bio powder weekly. Hoover filter changed frequently. Job done.

Quenelle Thu 25-Aug-11 16:12:34

YABU I hate the smell of incense, and air fresheners - any artificial smell actually. DH has put Neutrodol air fresheners in the kitchen and toilet and I hate them.

LRDTheFeministDragon Thu 25-Aug-11 16:17:10


Address the smell, don't cover it. Lots of people react badly to incense.

Ephiny Thu 25-Aug-11 16:18:21

YABU, I would hate strong air fresheners or scents or incense in the house, it would give me a headache and I would not be impressed by DP doing this (not that he would). I don't think the dog would like it much either, they have very sensitive noses!

Is it actually the dog you can smell, or his bed or favourite rug or something which might need washing? You can put a blanket down on top of bed/rug/sofa/whatever, which is more easily washed. You are going to have a bit of a doggy smell though, with a dog in the house, you can minimise it by keeping things cleaned and vaccumed regularly, but not sure you can eliminate it entirely.

Insomnia11 Thu 25-Aug-11 16:20:03

There is a woman at work (fortunately not in my dept so I don't see her often) that wears such strong perfume, it smells like patchouli oil or soomething similar, it actually makes me sneeze and feel ill if she's down the corridor, let alone in a room with me.

I don't like most incense as it makes me feel a bit weird, slightly light headed.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: