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To think that distant relatives,whom we rarely hear from (unless they want a favour) are presumtuous to ring up and ask what are our DC's GCSE results?

(27 Posts)
MissMap Thu 25-Aug-11 13:43:31

That's it really.

I am irritated, If it were any of their business I would have rung them.

Results were 7 As, 2Bs, and 1C.

Loshad Thu 25-Aug-11 13:44:35

no, they were interested. how can you complain about that?

ghostofstalbans Thu 25-Aug-11 13:45:12

do they have kids of a similar age? some people are crazily competitive when it comes to exam results

hocuspontas Thu 25-Aug-11 13:45:30

How lovely that they are interested. No phone calls here...

Portofino Thu 25-Aug-11 13:45:49

Are you sure you are not just stealth boasting? hmm I would be glad they care enough to ask.

StrandedBear Thu 25-Aug-11 13:45:57

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cyb Thu 25-Aug-11 13:46:04

And if they hadn't rung?

'AIBU that my relatives havent asked about GCSE results?'

Do they have kids same age? Are you thinking they are being competitive?

Why list the results?

MissMap Thu 25-Aug-11 13:48:59

Crazily competitive unfortunately. DC worked their socks off to get those grades, and we are amazed and delighted but unpleasant realatives sneer at anything less than A*s in double figures.

MyRealName Thu 25-Aug-11 13:50:53

Congratulations to your DC! smile

Were they just showing interest in your DC do you think, and wanted to congratulate them? I remember when I got my GCSE results, I somehow expected aunts and uncles to bombard us with calls to see how I did. I was dissappointed when they didn't- it was a big deal to me then.

Only you can really judge if it was well meaning or not. If it was, then it's not a big deal.

MissMap Thu 25-Aug-11 13:51:41

Listed the grades to make point that there is nothing to hide. I do not think that it is any of distant relatives business.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 25-Aug-11 13:52:24

Sounds like a nice thing to do. Perhaps they simply thought of your child when they realised it is results day, and used it as an excuse to call.

mummymccar Thu 25-Aug-11 13:52:30

I think YABU. It is lovely that they thought of your DC at a really special time for them. Your DC has been through months of stress and under a lot of pressure to get the results that they have. I think it is lovely that your relatives & friends took time out of their busy lives to contact you and congratulate your DC. I'm sure that your DC is very happy that their hard work is being recognised by other family members too. I can't imagine why you would possibly be cross about this? You say it is none of their business and yet you are happy to share the results on MN with people you've never met?
Congratulations to your DC. Fantastic results that they should be proud of.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 25-Aug-11 13:53:20

Did they sneer at the results then? Or were they congratulatory?

LemonDifficult Thu 25-Aug-11 13:55:13

Don't be irritated. Turns out they do care after all!

MissMap Thu 25-Aug-11 13:58:04


Our DC has always wanted to be a midwife after Alevels.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 25-Aug-11 14:04:44

They sneered at a 16 yr old's exam results? I hope you gave them the dressing down they deserve.

Sn0wGoose Thu 25-Aug-11 14:22:34

"Stealth boasting", I like that grin

YABU, it's all over TV and everywhere atm, of course they're going to think of your DC and wonder how s/he did - it's nice that they cared enough to call.

MissMap Thu 25-Aug-11 14:27:59

My DH did, but it took the edge off what would have been a really happy day. They suggested she can resit some subjects. She already has good enough grades to continue her studies and hopefully she will be able to follow her chosen career.

There is a difference in culture between us and them so to give them the benefit of the doubt maybe something was lost in translation.

CherylWillBounceBack Thu 25-Aug-11 15:17:56

I've never seen a more clear cut case of stealth boasting. And if you're going to do it, at least pretend it was 10 A*'s.

MissMap Thu 25-Aug-11 17:06:52

Cheryl did I mention my DC is 9 years old and still at primary school-- now that was stealth boasting!

PixiePrincess Thu 25-Aug-11 17:09:23

Why list the results? What your DC's got for their GCSE's doesn't have any relevance to what you were irritated about in the thread title.

smoggii Thu 25-Aug-11 17:18:54

I can understand why you listed the results as when i read the title I assumed your DC had done badly wink

Congratulations to your child and just choose to take it that your relatives were interested and even though you don't see them very often they still think of you and your family and know that this will be an important day for your child.

FWIW I just dropped round a gift for my cousin's DD who got all Bs and Cs. I am very proud of her because I know she worked really hard and can now do the a-levels she wants to do!

justabigdisco Thu 25-Aug-11 17:21:19

you say you listed results because you have nothing to hide... in which case, why would you be bothered about relatives ringing up to ask?

SuePurblybilt Thu 25-Aug-11 17:30:54

I would think that they are the type of people who are desperate to have something to link themselves to a current event. I don't get why people do that - if there is an earthquake in Bali they'll be falling over themselves to establish a connection: "Oh my sister's friend's boy is out there, we're so worried" hmm. I see it all the time and it bugs me grin.

GCSEs are all over the news and they want to make it about them, that's my twopennorth.

MissMap Thu 25-Aug-11 17:32:29

Thanks Smoggii- at least you understood me. I was not boasting, these grades are nothing exceptional.

I am delighted for her though, and for anyone who worked hard and achieved their potential, whether it was an A* or a C.

That was my original point really.

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