Hello, I'm new and have been lurking for a few days because I've suddenly been hit with a massive attack of The Brood. I'm 36, nearly 37, and my partner of two years is 44. Neither of us have any children yet, and I'm aware that time is very quickly running out, if it hasn't already done so. (My mother went through the menopause at 40, apparently.)
So I've discussed the situation with my DP, and we've agreed that after my gynecologist's appointment in two weeks time, I'll go off the pill and we'll see what happens. So that seems all well and good and sensible.
Except I'm terrified of having a child and finding that I really hate being a mother and/or my DP hates being a father and that I've made everything worse instead of better. My DP is as ambivalent as me, and would probably not make the decision to have a child if I didn't make it for him.
I don't know whether this ambivalence/fear means that I really shouldn't have a child, or whether it's more or less normal. There is also the possibility that I/we can't have one and I'm working myself up into a tizzy for nothing. But I feel like I've two weeks to decide one way or the other now, I've been umming and ahhing for far too long.
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Theala · 24/08/2011 14:29
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