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To think dh should not roll his eyes and sigh if I tell him something has broken.

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SDTGisAnEvilGenius Wed 24-Aug-11 11:12:31

He does this every bloody time - even when it is something cheap to replace - like my pc keyboard (the comma key is not working any more and I am finding it bloody hard without one). It's not my fault that things wear out or break down. I do know that he is worried about money at the moment and am doing my best to stay on top of the family budget - but I hate being treated as if it is my fault that something needs replacing.

I wish he wouldn't shoot the bloody messenger so bloody often.

ObiWan Wed 24-Aug-11 11:15:22

I probably roll my eyes and sigh when something is broken. It sounds like a perfectly reasonable response.

If it bothers you, just replace stuff that needs replacing without mentioning it .

SinicalSal Wed 24-Aug-11 11:16:16

My DH is the same - it's not you/me, he's just expressing his frustration. I do find it had to bite my tongue, though tbh it's because I don't have a leg to stand on really as I moan and groan at him for things that re not his fault either.
it's a bad habit more than anything, I'd say. Do you pull him up on it - calmly?

olibeansmummy Wed 24-Aug-11 11:32:11

Dh dies this too! My I phone broke and I 'obviously dropped it' ( which I didn't), his I phone broke and 'they're bloody rubbish' hmmm...

I once came through the door as a (tiny) earthquake occured and he shouts 'what are you doing?!' I think I'm the only person to be blamed for a flaming earthquake!

SDTGisAnEvilGenius Wed 24-Aug-11 11:35:45

ObiWan - at the moment we are trying to account for every penny we spend so unless I could replace something within whatever amount of cash I had on me (usually under £20) I would have to put the expenditure in the accounts. Though he might be happier with that (as long as I haven't spent money we can't afford - ie replacing a really big item) so I will bear what you said in mind - thanks.

He's an engineer so a lot of the time he can fix broken things rather than us having to replace them - and he would get pissed off (justifiably so) if I spent money we didn't need to spend replacing something he could have fixed.

SinicalSal - I will have a calm chat with him about his reactions.

MrsBethel Wed 24-Aug-11 11:39:52

I think you're interpreting it as disappointment with you, or something like that.

I doubt it is. He might just be expressing mild frustration at a mildly frustrating thing?

SDTGisAnEvilGenius Wed 24-Aug-11 12:18:58

MrsBethel - how dare you come onto my AIBU thread with your logic and common sense and make me realise I may (just may) have been a bit unreasonable (not that I shall be telling dh). grin

UKSky Wed 24-Aug-11 22:14:33

Is your comma key actually broken or just not working? it is just not working lift it out and remove the biscuit/chocolate crumbs that have gathered there.

FabbyChic Wed 24-Aug-11 22:26:20

YOu can buy a keyboard for a fiver.

TrillianAstra Wed 24-Aug-11 22:36:28

I roll my eyes and sigh when things are broken when no-one else is around. It's a perfectly normal expression of annoyance or disappointment with the situation.

SDTGisAnEvilGenius Wed 24-Aug-11 22:38:27

I've banged it a bit, and my comma key is working now - see -> ,,,,,,,,,,!!

And I've had a calm chat with dh and explained that it upsets me to get tutted and sighed at when I have to tell him something's stopped working.

I don't want to feel scared of telling my own dh things.

frownieface Wed 24-Aug-11 22:41:30

My dp does this too!!! It's always my fault if something breaks, does my nut in angry

Whatmeworry Thu 25-Aug-11 00:26:58

Muuum....this thing doesn't work/is broken/won't go....

Roll Eyes, Sigh, knowing I have to get off arse go and sort it out grin

Awomancalledhorse Thu 25-Aug-11 00:45:04

I do this to DH, and myself. I like having things to be mildly annoyed about, household crap has a habit of knowing when you're penny pinching/sticking to a budget & pick THEN to break, normally after the 'aren't we doing well, saving £XX this month'?

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