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'All right love..'

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cornsilx · 23/08/2011 13:55

don't know whether to put this here but it's bugging me. People who use 'love' to refer to women when they disagree with them. 'All right love...' kind of thing. Usually men but sometimes women do this as well.

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greengirl87 · 23/08/2011 14:03

Guilty as charged!

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cornsilx · 23/08/2011 14:04
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StrandedBear · 23/08/2011 14:04

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DontGoCurly · 23/08/2011 14:04

I love people calling me love. Takes the sting out of things I think!

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SinisterBuggyMonth · 23/08/2011 14:05

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Pan · 23/08/2011 14:06

Never done this.

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ShatnersBassoon · 23/08/2011 14:06

It's the same as 'Look here, pal' when you're about to disagree with a man. It softens a warning I think, sort of 'I'm not pleased with you, but let's not fall out over this'.

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Empusa · 23/08/2011 14:07

"Is is any better than 'OK dear'? Because if it is I am also guilty"

Same here. It's great when someone is being particularly annoying to just be able to just say "yes dear".

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Pan · 23/08/2011 14:08

If I lived in West Scotland I'd be calling people "wee hen" all of the time. Including the Clydeside welders.

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cornsilx · 23/08/2011 14:09

wee hen sounds quite sweet actually

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VelvetSnow · 23/08/2011 14:12

DP calls me 'love'

I say "DP"
He says "Yes, love"

I like it.

But I don't refer to any other female as love, dear, hen - anything actually.

In fact if I use anything at all it's mate!

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GetAwayFromHerYouBitch · 23/08/2011 14:13

I don't have a real objection to it, except when it is used to patronise, which it sometimes definitely is

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ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld · 23/08/2011 14:13

Grin Around here people call you love all the time, even when they're agreeing with you.

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picnicbasketcase · 23/08/2011 14:15

If the person saying it is doing it affectionately its okay.

If they do it in that sexist Monkfish 'Oi, love, put yer knickers on and make me a cup of tea' way, definitely not okay.

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ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld · 23/08/2011 14:19

I've just been thinking about this, too much time on my hands, and I've just realised that, although it's common usage around here, I don't say it and never have.

I agree it's annoying when it's used in a patronising way though.

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swingingcat · 23/08/2011 14:24

Hate being called "pet"
Hate hearing young males referred to as "son" when its obvious you are not his parents
Hate DH calling me "mate"


Love being called "love"

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cornsilx · 23/08/2011 14:25

it's definitely the sexist monkfish way that I object to Grin

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summertimeblews · 23/08/2011 14:28

calm down luv

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DamselInDisarray · 23/08/2011 14:28

When complaining about driving, I refer to all other drivers as 'love' regardless of their gender.

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GetAwayFromHerYouBitch · 23/08/2011 14:31

"Cheer up love, it might never happen", said when I just have my normal face on, walking down the street, and some twat feels free to comment - I hate that. And someone once said it to me when something bad had happened. Readers, I swore at him.

Men don't tend to patronise me as much these days. There's something to be said for being over 40

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MrsBradleyCooper · 23/08/2011 14:36

Depends who says it and in what context.

MIL calls me "dear" and I find it quite sweet, but I have been called "love/lovey" in a patronising way before and it has made me want to lamp them.

When said in a certain way, it implies that you are about 12.

It's not as bad as "petal" though......

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Honeydragon · 23/08/2011 14:36

I use love or lovie as a term of affection toward women and children, but never in a derogatory way.

If I want to be a derogatory I call them a fuckwit.

HTH Grin

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MrsBradleyCooper · 23/08/2011 14:38

My DH calls everyone "darlin""

From the hairdresser, to little old ladies, checkout girls and even if someone cuts him up on the road - "Are you sure darlin'?"

Bit of a cockerneee thing I think

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