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'All right love..'

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cornsilx Tue 23-Aug-11 13:55:27

don't know whether to put this here but it's bugging me. People who use 'love' to refer to women when they disagree with them. 'All right love...' kind of thing. Usually men but sometimes women do this as well.

greengirl87 Tue 23-Aug-11 14:03:22

Guilty as charged!

cornsilx Tue 23-Aug-11 14:04:02

<makes list>

StrandedBear Tue 23-Aug-11 14:04:13

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DontGoCurly Tue 23-Aug-11 14:04:24

I love people calling me love. Takes the sting out of things I think!

SinisterBuggyMonth Tue 23-Aug-11 14:05:56

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Pan Tue 23-Aug-11 14:06:24

Never done this.

<< You need a database these days. Love.>>smile

ShatnersBassoon Tue 23-Aug-11 14:06:58

It's the same as 'Look here, pal' when you're about to disagree with a man. It softens a warning I think, sort of 'I'm not pleased with you, but let's not fall out over this'.

Empusa Tue 23-Aug-11 14:07:13

"Is is any better than 'OK dear'? Because if it is I am also guilty"

Same here. It's great when someone is being particularly annoying to just be able to just say "yes dear".

Pan Tue 23-Aug-11 14:08:12

If I lived in West Scotland I'd be calling people "wee hen" all of the time. Including the Clydeside welders.

cornsilx Tue 23-Aug-11 14:09:36

wee hen sounds quite sweet actually

VelvetSnow Tue 23-Aug-11 14:12:45

DP calls me 'love'

I say "DP"
He says "Yes, love"

I like it.

But I don't refer to any other female as love, dear, hen - anything actually.

In fact if I use anything at all it's mate!

GetAwayFromHerYouBitch Tue 23-Aug-11 14:13:13

I don't have a real objection to it, except when it is used to patronise, which it sometimes definitely is

ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld Tue 23-Aug-11 14:13:24

grin Around here people call you love all the time, even when they're agreeing with you.

picnicbasketcase Tue 23-Aug-11 14:15:41

If the person saying it is doing it affectionately its okay.

If they do it in that sexist Monkfish 'Oi, love, put yer knickers on and make me a cup of tea' way, definitely not okay.

ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld Tue 23-Aug-11 14:19:22

I've just been thinking about this, too much time on my hands, and I've just realised that, although it's common usage around here, I don't say it and never have.

I agree it's annoying when it's used in a patronising way though.

swingingcat Tue 23-Aug-11 14:24:32

Hate being called "pet"
Hate hearing young males referred to as "son" when its obvious you are not his parents
Hate DH calling me "mate"

Love being called "love"

cornsilx Tue 23-Aug-11 14:25:59

it's definitely the sexist monkfish way that I object to grin

summertimeblews Tue 23-Aug-11 14:28:23

calm down luv

DamselInDisarray Tue 23-Aug-11 14:28:44

When complaining about driving, I refer to all other drivers as 'love' regardless of their gender.

GetAwayFromHerYouBitch Tue 23-Aug-11 14:31:42

"Cheer up love, it might never happen", said when I just have my normal face on, walking down the street, and some twat feels free to comment - I hate that. And someone once said it to me when something bad had happened. Readers, I swore at him.

Men don't tend to patronise me as much these days. There's something to be said for being over 40

MadamDeathstare Tue 23-Aug-11 14:32:41

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MadamDeathstare Tue 23-Aug-11 14:34:21

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MrsBradleyCooper Tue 23-Aug-11 14:36:02

Depends who says it and in what context.

MIL calls me "dear" and I find it quite sweet, but I have been called "love/lovey" in a patronising way before and it has made me want to lamp them.

When said in a certain way, it implies that you are about 12.

It's not as bad as "petal" though......

Honeydragon Tue 23-Aug-11 14:36:17

I use love or lovie as a term of affection toward women and children, but never in a derogatory way.

If I want to be a derogatory I call them a fuckwit.

HTH grin

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