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to be possibly stupidly upset by 2 of my friends?

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fluschmoo Tue 23-Aug-11 12:06:33

Think I am over-reacting but we will see! I was in town with my ds and I ran into a friend who I used to work with. We have kept in touch sporadically and normally catch up with each other over the holidays.

If she is in town (not near where she lives herself) then she would normally text me to see what I was doing. That's not what bothered me though. There is another friend of ours and when we meet up, it is usually the 3 of us. But not this time as friend said that she was meeting other friend tomorrow for a coffee and would I like to join them. Felt like saying stuff it as you obviously haven't asked me in the first place and this arrangement had stood for about a week previously.

I felt some sad teenagy feelings of rejection and a little bit confused as to why they wouldn't invite me. AIBU or childish or both?

Many thanks.

cjbartlett Tue 23-Aug-11 12:08:37

But they have invited you

Filibear Tue 23-Aug-11 12:09:27

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pranma Tue 23-Aug-11 12:09:28

Both-but understandably so!Dont let it fester just accept the invite and enjoy the coffee.They have asked you-your friend didnt have to mention that they were meeting but she did.All is well smile
But I'd have been a bit miffed for a few minutes too!

TheFarSide Tue 23-Aug-11 12:14:38

Your friend need not have mentioned their coffee but invited you to join them so they must still enjoy your company. It's easy to feel left out when there's a threesome, and two of those three appear to get on better or see each other alone. YANBU to feel temporarily upset but it would BU to dwell on it for too long.

Takitezee Tue 23-Aug-11 12:15:29

Perhaps they wanted a child free quiet coffee so arranged it for just the two of them this time. Whatever the reason she was comfortable that she hadn't done anything wrong as she told you what was going on and invited you.

fluschmoo Tue 23-Aug-11 12:19:53

Fair enough thanks folks. I do find these situations quite hard to deal with. Guess I've got too much time on my hands during summer holidays to dwell on things! Just hate that temporary feeling of rejection and start thinking what is wrong with me that I don't automatically get invited!

You are right though - she needn't have mentioned it. Feel better now but still a few residual feelings of crapness but this will pass!

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