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ReindeerBollocks Mon 22-Aug-11 19:19:17

DH and I currently rowing discussing wedding stuff.

When holding a reception (at swish venue) do you let guests choose the menu or set a menu for them?

I have been to several weddings which when having a wedding breakfast, have a set menu. Have also been to Weddings which have had a choice (when sent out with invites)

DH has been to one wedding. They had a buffet.

He believes that our guests should all get a choice of food.

I did agree, but now we've only got less than three weeks to plan this, I think we should just set a menu.

Who is right?

(BTW we are taking this seriously - you choose his choice I'll be ringing guests this evening!)

scurryfunge Mon 22-Aug-11 19:20:41

For the sake of ease and cost, set a menu.

JarethTheGoblinKing Mon 22-Aug-11 19:20:54

Set menu.

summertimeblews Mon 22-Aug-11 19:21:31

never had a menu to choose from before

eat what you are given is my motto smile

Shodan Mon 22-Aug-11 19:21:45

You choose a menu, but take into account any special dietary needs.

Too much faff otherwise.

Sofabitch Mon 22-Aug-11 19:21:46

For a sit down meal it has to be a set menu.

reelingintheyears Mon 22-Aug-11 19:21:55

Yep..set menu.

exoticfruits Mon 22-Aug-11 19:21:59

You can do whatever you like. It is cheaper to have a set menu. We had a set menu. smile (with veggie option-in advance)

MrsJamin Mon 22-Aug-11 19:22:06

Set menu

fivegomadindorset Mon 22-Aug-11 19:22:26

Set menu ask for Any dietry requirements

Pakdooik Mon 22-Aug-11 19:22:29

Set menu with special dietary needs options

silverfrog Mon 22-Aug-11 19:23:37

set menu with options wink

seriously, though - set menu, choice of omnivore or vegetarian. ask about other special dietary requirements (eg dairy/gluten issues - you could make your veggie option a gluten free vegan option, which should cover most issues, but there are always nut allergies etc to consider too)

Thistledew Mon 22-Aug-11 19:27:29

Set menu with any special dietary requirements to be notified in advance.

I have been to 5 weddings recently. 3 had set menus, one was a buffet and one was an Indian wedding so had a selection of curries served to each table from which you could make your own choice.

Catsmamma Mon 22-Aug-11 19:27:40

how many guests are there cos I think that has some bearing!

if it's under a dozen then a swish venue should be able to cope with individual choices

but any more then set menu, with a couple of choices, which they have to order in advance.

Muckyhighchair Mon 22-Aug-11 19:30:49

The last wedding I went to had a mix

Set starter soup and roll

A choice of 3 mains Sunday lunch style of beef or lamb or nut roast for the veggies ( this choice was talked with them before the menu was set but open to meat eaters as well)

And trio small of puddings

They had the list made up weeks before and on the table names the guest choice. Seemed to work well and they said it work in fairly cheap because all the veg etc was the same for all the mains

Nagoo Mon 22-Aug-11 19:30:57

I'd expect a set menu. I have been to one where we chose from 3 options for start main and dessert, but only one. What does the venue offer?

squeakytoy Mon 22-Aug-11 19:31:28

set menu with 3 choices usually... meat, fish , vegetarian..

Sewmuchtodo Mon 22-Aug-11 19:31:38

We had choices but the quests decided on the day.

2 starters, 2 soups, 3 mains and 2 desserst followed by tea or coffee and chocs.

It ment the quests could decide what they fancied on the day. It worked out a few pounds more a head to have options though, and if doing it in 3wks a set menu would give good value.

squeakytoy Mon 22-Aug-11 19:32:52

depending on numbers, many places can not cater to choices on the day.. they have to know in advance

notcitrus Mon 22-Aug-11 19:35:07

If you want a sit-down full-service meal, it'll have to be set menu.
However a buffet where people go up and serve themselves salads etc and get served the hot stuff will be able to be more flexible, better value (don't have to pay for so many staff) and IME most guests will prefer it.

Peachy Mon 22-Aug-11 19:36:20

set menu, people who loathe main can choose veggie option

ReindeerBollocks Mon 22-Aug-11 19:38:41

I am liking this so far

Menu choices are

Course 1
Soup
Chicken Terrine
Red pepper and spring onion tartlet
Assiette of melon

Course 2
Slow roasted moorland lamb
Roast rump of Beef
Whole Seabass

Course 3
Raspberry creme brûlée
White chocolate mousse
Apple crumble

Fairly bog standard menu (sounds fancier on the cards they gave us) 50 guests.

eaglewings Mon 22-Aug-11 19:38:53

Wedding last weekend had a set menu and it wasn't until your post I thought about it. They had different pudding for me without milk. The wine and company were actually more important to those on our table tbh

ReindeerBollocks Mon 22-Aug-11 19:39:57

squeaky the venue need to know ASAP. DH wants us me to ring guests now and find out their orders!

Dozer Mon 22-Aug-11 19:45:07

Depends on the venue/caterer, some can do a choice with very short notice where guests choose when there.

Buffets are often cheaper.

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