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To think if someone wants a present, they shouldn't put conditions on what you get them?

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OnlyHuman Mon 22-Aug-11 15:43:39

Imagine the scenario where you're involved with someone and have been for a few months but are not living with them. You are going on holiday without them (as it was booked before you met) and they make it clear they are expecting you to bring them something back hmm therefore you say "of course I'll be bringing you something back!" however they then start to put down a load of conditions on what that something can be:

Nothing with the name of the place on.
Nothing resembling that country or with the flag on
Nothing with dolphins on

Infact - they want clothes bringing back. Designer clothes as they've heard they're cheap over there.

So you go away on holiday and try to look for something to bring them back, everything has the place name on or at least resembles the country you're in. You do a visit to a designer outlet but the clothes are still a lot more to buy than what you would normally spend on a little souvenier. You begin to begrudge being told what you are and are not allowed to bring back (you would, right?) and so buy them sod all in the end other than a little box of chocolates resembling the place you stayed.

When you get back, they go in a mood saying "did you get me any jeans? no?? did you actually get me ANYTHING??" and then moan about the chocolates.

AIBU or are they?

summertimeblews Mon 22-Aug-11 15:45:08

go to walmart, they have nice things in there dirt cheap

HuntForGalaxyHazelnut Mon 22-Aug-11 15:49:38

Are you joking? Tell them to fuck right off.

How ungrateful.

Of course YANBU

cookielove Mon 22-Aug-11 15:50:06

Oh my god, i think that that is sooooo rude, unless it was someone i was related to i wouldn't even ask them to bring me back something. However i am going to canada very soon, and my sister who lives there has asked me to bring over some stuff (i can completly understand why) and i will be bringing back somethings for friends and family, none of it being clothes though smile

JanMorrow Mon 22-Aug-11 15:52:53

who the fuck is this tool bag to which you refer?

Bestb411pm Mon 22-Aug-11 15:54:01

If they gave me money to buy something because they thought it was cheaper I wouldn't mind, but presuming this is a boyfriend then I'm afraid I would be considering getting rid - sounds like a spoilt 15 year old to me.

GalaxyGuzzler Mon 22-Aug-11 15:56:09

I would have spent my whole holiday searching for a dolfin with a placename on and stuck a flag to it in the hope that my selfish greedy friend/parter would get the hint and sod off!

(btw great name HuntForGalaxyHazelnut0

LineRunner Mon 22-Aug-11 15:56:39

She/he sounds quite insecure.

On the other hand, is 'a little souvenir' really all you want to buy your beloved? You sound juuuust a little bit tight.

NorfolkBroad Mon 22-Aug-11 16:00:30

I hate stuff like that! Demanding certain gifts etc. It's not exactly a deal breaker but it is annoying. YANBU!

switchtvoffdosomelessboring Mon 22-Aug-11 16:07:26

Tell him he got off lightly. The 10 pairs of 'real' Calvin Klein boxers my OH bought in Turkey for about £5 turned up out be Kevin Crimes of various sizes and shapes most of where fit for nothing more than the bin.

That'll teach him to buy fakes.

SenoritaViva Mon 22-Aug-11 16:13:39

People are so spoilt and bloody rude. I'd have bought something with dolphins and the place name, hopefully along with the flag.

LolaRennt Mon 22-Aug-11 16:18:06

I would never ask for a souvenier (mainly because I hate stuff with dolphins on it) but to actually tell you what to buy them. Reaslly out of order, I wouldn't have wasted my holiday shopping at outlet malls for someone.

Spuddybean Mon 22-Aug-11 16:24:30

some people expect presents from holidays, which i find very odd. I budget for my hols and don't have the money, time or inclination to shop. They are too precious to waste.

When my DP travels with work i do ask for a little something - the cheesier the better, but would never ask for clothes. I buy my own!

My parents give me a list of booze and fags. A duty free thing. Which i really resent as they always say they'll give me the money on return. Which means i still need to allocate my spending money to it, have to carry it, and it uses up my allocation should i wish to buy anything for myself.

Last time dad asked for Campari and then complained it was cheaper in tesco's. He wouldn't give me the money back and said i was stupid for buying it. Like i know what fucking Campari costs!

Sorry to rant, breath, breath

Tell him he is being a pillock, if he laughs and agrees then keep him, if he sulks even more then get rid.

GalaxyGuzzler Mon 22-Aug-11 16:28:05

appalling spelling in my earlier post! dolphin,place name, partner.

<hangs head in shame> blush

FreePeaceSweet Mon 22-Aug-11 16:33:22

The only time I do gifts/souvenirs are when someone has fed my cat/moved my post etc. If I want to do gifts I will buy what I want to buy. Even then it'll be a fridge magnet or box of fudge. Expensive stuff is reserved for me or my immediate family. Telling someone to buy you clothes or perfume is cheeky. You want that stuff? Then give them the cash.

HuntForGalaxyHazelnut Mon 22-Aug-11 18:54:43

So come on OP, did you tell him to get lost and take his chocolate back off him? Agree with previous posters, if you ask for expensive things from a holiday then you need to pay for it.

GalaxyGuzzler [Name Twin Special Handshake]

ineedabodytransplant Mon 22-Aug-11 21:02:52

I would have made a big point of how I couldn't be arsed to look...why would you waste a minute of your precious holiday searching for a pressie for a baby?

ineedabodytransplant Mon 22-Aug-11 21:23:45

This will show my age..blush

When I was a wee lad I was an alter server. And we used to go on alter server rallies. You would have a coach ride to another parish etc, mass and then the rest of the day was yours. Bearing in mind I was 7/8/9 it was hardly hedonist times.

My mum gave me 50p and I was told to bring her back a souvenier. Didn't have any money for myself, couldn't buy myself anything to eat or drink, just this f*****g 50p. She had so many bloody tea-towels. And the one time I couldn't find a tea-towel boy did I get it(and she hadn't been drinking that day either!)

I loathe souveniers with a passion. I refuse to buy anyone, anything as a proof of my holiday.

If you want a tacky gift from a holiday resort..get your lazy arse there and buy the shitty thing yourself!!angry

and breathe

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