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DPs friend staying the night.

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NameChanging101 Mon 22-Aug-11 11:25:58

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NameChanging101 Mon 22-Aug-11 11:27:03

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WalterFlipschicks Mon 22-Aug-11 11:27:38

You know you are nbu really dont you

GypsyMoth Mon 22-Aug-11 11:27:42

Sounds a bit seedy tbh!

Yanbu

WalterFlipschicks Mon 22-Aug-11 11:27:58

I would certainly have something to say!

NameChanging101 Mon 22-Aug-11 11:29:14

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dickiedavisthunderthighs Mon 22-Aug-11 11:30:01

YANBU but how do you know about meal/DVD/bed-sharing if he hasn't told you? Or has all this been put on his FB wall?

cumbria81 Mon 22-Aug-11 11:30:11

I think you're being a bit unreasonable. Either you trust him or you don't. the past is the past and you have no right to tell him whom he can and can't see.

YANBU to be annoyed that you never spend time together though.

AnyFucker Mon 22-Aug-11 11:30:31

eh ?

Why are you telling us this ?

Get your husband's bollocks in a vice-like grip and make him explain himself

Don't be a mug, love, please

DuelingFanjo Mon 22-Aug-11 11:31:59

did he put all that stuff about the DVD and bed situation on his wall? shock

NameChanging101 Mon 22-Aug-11 11:32:56

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Pamplemoussse Mon 22-Aug-11 11:33:13

um

he's having an affair

sorry

Madlizzy Mon 22-Aug-11 11:33:38

What Anyfucker said with bells on!

tethersend Mon 22-Aug-11 11:33:40

Do you not live together? Is he DD's father?

AnyFucker Mon 22-Aug-11 11:33:43

stop assuming and talk to your husband

and ascertain why he chose not to tell you this

Pamplemoussse Mon 22-Aug-11 11:33:53

plus you nosing around his messages = lack of trust anyway, yes?

NameChanging101 Mon 22-Aug-11 11:35:05

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DuelingFanjo Mon 22-Aug-11 11:35:06

ah - so they texting eachother to arrange stuff. Why is he being open about it on his wall though?

Has he told you she's visiting but not told you the whole truth? Being 'open' about it but basically covering up the real truth?

dickiedavisthunderthighs Mon 22-Aug-11 11:35:20

No no no no don't put up with this. Any woman worth her salt would not be putting herself in a situation with a married man like this (no matter how close), and no man worth his salt would have such scant disregard for his wife that he would think this is OK.
I smell a very big rat here OP, sorry.

NameChanging101 Mon 22-Aug-11 11:36:06

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RealityVonCrapp Mon 22-Aug-11 11:37:09

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GypsyMoth Mon 22-Aug-11 11:37:16

With the extra info I agree with others. He is up to no good

Problem is, with working away you will never know for sure what he is up to. Can you live with that constant worry?

NameChanging101 Mon 22-Aug-11 11:37:27

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fedupofnamechanging Mon 22-Aug-11 11:38:12

I'm sure lots of people will be on here at some point reminding you that he is with you now and he is entitled to have a female best friend blah, blah, blah.

I think this is borrowing trouble, and is inappropriate behaviour for someone with a partner. I'd say no to this without hesitation. Having a drink together is one thing - sharing a cosy evening at home and sharing a bed is quite another. He ought to be doing these things with you. if she's that good a friend, ask her to babysit so you can have a cosy evening with your partner.

cheesesarnie Mon 22-Aug-11 11:39:12

ask him.but youll have to admit to nosing in his texts.
if he'd told you i dont think id be as worried but the fact hes not said a word would worry me.sorry!

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