Just got back from a weekend away with my mum. Things tend to be quite strained between us at the best of times as she has a habit of nagging and taking everything too personally but to my suprise, the weekend passed without incident.
So on the bus on the way home she asked me if I wanted to stay at her house for dinner tonight. Now - I can't win here no matter what I say (if I say yes, she'll moan that she's tired, if I say no, she'll moan that I'm in a mood). So I said "yes if it's no trouble." Her attitude and tone of voice immediately changed as she made it obvious that she was too tired to be cooking meals and wanted to get a shower and go to bed so knowing now that no matter what I said it was going to evolve into a nagging session I said "to be honest, it might be easier if I get straight off home because I'm really tired too." Well - as predicted this set her off:
Mum - "Oh! you think I don't want you to stay!"
me - "No I just thought it would be easier for both of us if I don't"
Mum - "you're in a mood now"
me - "I'm not, I'm tired and should really get home"
Mum - "No you're in a mood because you think I want you to go home!"
Now by this point I am really starting to lose my patience but not wanting to start an argument I stay calm and say:
"Honestly, I'm just tired."
My mum says nothing, just tuts and looks out of the window a few minutes later she looks at me and says "what's up now?!"
me - "I feel sick" (true, I get travel sick)
mum - "no you're in a mood over the dinner!"
me - "No I actually feel very sick"
mum - (giggles and then says:) "You always snap when you're tired!"
me - "I'm feeling sick"
mum - "hey don't start snapping now, we've had a nice weekend so far!"
me - "I'm not, as I said, I feel sick"
mum - "tut, you're always snapping. what's up? are you tired or summat??"
me - (said through gritted teeth) "I feel sick"
mum - "oo I better not talk to you then if you're going to be like that"
ARRRRGGGGHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!! For fucks sake sometimes I honestly think she deliberately starts arguments like this so she can play the victim later and tell everyone I snapped at her on the way home and ruined the weekend.
AIBU??? Would you have been able to stay calm in these circumstances??
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Was my irritable snapping justified??
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EternalPie · 21/08/2011 18:57
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