I'm fairly certain this is ever so slightly cheeky. Would you agree?

[LeoTheLateBloomer]

I've had a £10 Next voucher to spend on DD for ages (given to me when she was born 16 months ago).

As I don't have a Next anywhere near me and I can't use it online I asked my step mother to take it and find something for DD next time she was shopping.

I'm going to stay with my parents next week and mentioned that I'd like to go shopping because I now have some Next vouchers to spend on myself. SM said "oh yes there's still a bit left on the card you gave me ... for DD of course". I asked why there was just 'a bit' left and she said she'd used some of it "for bits for her birthday".

I have 2 issues with this:

1. The voucher was from my friend to be spent on DD, not for my SM to use to buy her a present.
   

1. I'm trying really hard to work out what she'd have bought; all the clothes they gave DD came from either Boden or M&S.
   

Would this annoy you? I'm in two minds whether to try and persue this next week but don't know if I have the energy.

[ragged]

Just ask what she got for her birthday from Next, don't keep speculating.
Sounds thoughtless of the SM. Too bad you can't rely on her.

[fuckityfuckfuckfuck]

It's less than a tenner. I'd let it go

[TimeWasting]

She's nicked it.

Not worth pursuing, make it clear you know what's happened and don't trust her with anything like that again.

[Nagoo]

Just ask her, what did you get DD with the voucher?

[SuePurblybilt]

Well if it was £10 and she's not used it all, the 'bits' she got must have been hair slides or something?

It would annoy me, yes. But for £10 you'll probably have to be satisfied with just leaving it.

Or ask what she did get for DD as the friend who bought the voucher wanted to know.

[susiedaisy]

Can she not just give you a tenner and keep the voucher for herself?

[LeoTheLateBloomer]

I know it's only a tenner but it's the principal; it was a present from a friend and she's done something with it. Honestly, nothing she got would have come from Next, so whatever she's done with it I'm 99% certain it wasn't for DD.

She's such bloody hard work it wouldn't be a straight forward conversation if I were to ask.

I just wanted to know if others thought it was cheeky.

[ChippingIn]

It would make me really uncomfortable. It's only £10 so no big deal - but it's not hers. It's DD's and if she would take money off of DD like this - what else would she do that was underhand. It would make me not trust her tbh. I would feel completely differently if she had said - 'Oh I'll give you £10 as well to spend how you like. I used the Next card you gave me when I was there and thought it would be better for you to just have the cash to do with as you please'.

[pozzled]

I like the idea of saying that the friend who bought the voucher was curious about what it had been spent on. I wouldn't make a big deal of it, but I would probably ask for the card back so I could choose the rest of the present, and I'd check how much was left on it.

[ChippingIn]

x-posts

For me it goes beyond 'Cheeky' into the 'I don't trust you' :(

[create]

"all the clothes they gave DD came from either Boden or M&S." So they must have spent a fair amount? The actual £10 might not have been spent on DD in Next, but sounds like she has had value for it.

I agree it's a bit odd, but I have done the same sort of thing if a DS has a voucher for a shop which doesn't have anything he wants/needs

[Zimm]

WOW - errm she has stolen from your baby daughter. Yes it's only a tenner but it's still stealing. I am shocked. Ask her what she bought for DD and never trust her again...

[Nagoo]

yy chipping I think that I'd have given the OP the tenner anyway.

I always end up doing this for DS, the GP's give him money, I buy him stuff and then end up putting the money in his money box anyway

[ChippingIn]

create - yes, but then you would say I bought this for DGD instead of something from next (hand over item) and kept the next card for me as I'll use it. You don't give DGD presents for her birthday passing them off as from you when in fact you have used money you were 'holding' for her.

Swapping out is fine - passing gifts off as bought from you when they weren't is not.

[thefirstmrsrochester]

OPs daughter got Boden & M&S - maybe the stepmother spend more than she would have normally, the additional expense being offset by the next gift card.
Not stealing in my eyes.
Tis a tenner - not worth creating a stink about.

[MightyQuim]

Get something for your dd from your friend then at least SM will have nicked the money off you and not your daughter. And don't trust SM again.

[ChippingIn]

Thefirst - she gave those to her DGD as birthday presents from her she should have told the OP if she had put the value of her voucher towards them. It's not the £10 - it's the underhand way she's gone about it that's

[Ilythia]

If she immediately offers you a tenner inre turn then I would let it slide. Sometimes I have been out with vouchers for girls and seen soemthing I like, bought it with the vouchers and spent the equivalent in cash in another shop for them.
It is stealing if she hasn't bought anything for your DD. Okay it's only a tenner but it's the principle

[madmomma]

it would make me uncomfortable; it's tightfisted.

[pigletmania]

I agree its the principle, be it 10p or £100, its still stealing. I would just ask her what from Next did she get dd for her birthday, and don't trust her again.