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to think my sister is a **** and this is inexcusable?

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cherryburton Sun 21-Aug-11 10:31:16

Can i just have a rant please? Guess what we did yesterday - we went to visit dh'S dad at the chapel of rest. Dh's birthday today - the first card he opened was from my sister. What was on the front? A fucking corpse. I kid you not. Some Edwardian bloked stretched out on the floor - the caption was something like "Jennifer didn't know what was worse, the fact that he was dead, or that he'd forgotten the corkscrew."

Words fucking fail me. It made him cry. I could fucking kill her

saffronwblue Sun 21-Aug-11 10:33:05

YANBU. Is she always crass about things or is this a one off?

Catsmamma Sun 21-Aug-11 10:33:16

very crass!

SuePurblybilt Sun 21-Aug-11 10:33:27

Oh dear. Any chance she posted it before she knew?

Mitmoo Sun 21-Aug-11 10:33:52

Did she post it before your FIL died? Trying to find reasons to be nice here but struggling.

cherryburton Sun 21-Aug-11 10:34:15

She is unbelievably self centred and awful but this has surprised even me. Am not blowing this out of proprtion, am I?

Mitmoo Sun 21-Aug-11 10:34:36

Xpost Sue

BluddyMoFo Sun 21-Aug-11 10:34:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MrsRobertDuvall Sun 21-Aug-11 10:34:50

I know the card you mean, and have sent it to a friend...but in your circumstances, that is not appropriate.
is your sister prone to things like that?

hiltontribe Sun 21-Aug-11 10:35:09

so sorry to hear of your loss. sad

Did she send the card after Dh's dad had passed away? if she did then YANBU.

Mitmoo Sun 21-Aug-11 10:35:19

If she knew your FIL was deceased then no you are not being unreasonable.

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn Sun 21-Aug-11 10:35:31

No not at all.

Could she have bought and sealed a while ago and forgotten?

AgentZigzag Sun 21-Aug-11 10:35:52

I was going to say did she buy it before your DSs Dad died and didn't think before sending it?

But even that would be stretching reality until breaking point, you're right it's such a ridiculously insensitive thing to have done.

I can only suggest waiting to see what her excuse is though, because it's sad you think she will have done it on purpose as some kind of 'joke', is she prone to this kind of shite?

RebelFromTheWaistDown Sun 21-Aug-11 10:35:54

It made me laugh.

cherryburton Sun 21-Aug-11 10:35:55

Nope. He died on the 12th. She sent a condolence card. She posted the birthday card on the 16th. (I did think of this too, but no...)

BlowHole Sun 21-Aug-11 10:36:08

Could she have written it and sealed it ages ago, then forgotten what the picture was?

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn Sun 21-Aug-11 10:36:49

Are you going to call her?

AgentZigzag Sun 21-Aug-11 10:37:01

X posts, if she's likely to have done it 'on purpose' then you're definately not being over sensitive.

I was just going to ask when it was posted.

Or is she a super organised type that would have bought and written it weeks ago and perhaps just didn't think about what was on the front of it now.

BlowHole Sun 21-Aug-11 10:37:31

x-posted. That is inexcusable then. Is she normally so insensitive?

RebelFromTheWaistDown Sun 21-Aug-11 10:37:34

I mean AT your sister's stupidity.

BluddyMoFo Sun 21-Aug-11 10:38:16

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AgentZigzag Sun 21-Aug-11 10:38:24

What was it about the situation that made you laugh Rebel? The DHs Dads death? Or the fact the DH was crying?

RebelFromTheWaistDown Sun 21-Aug-11 10:39:08

X post zigzag

Katisha Sun 21-Aug-11 10:39:11

What did DH say?

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