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MumblingRagDoll Sun 21-Aug-11 09:16:30

My friend asks me to look after her 1 year old DD quite often...she and he DH work very long hours and she works in another city..she sometimes asks me to have her DD for the morning when she's been let down.

It's about once a month. She has no parents or siblings. I always say yes...I have 2 DDs of my own and they love the baby so it seems like a good thing all round.

DH has recently had a moan about it though and says my friend is taking the pee...he is often around when the baby is here and though he's fond of her I think it gets a bit much for him.....

He thinks she "needs to sort out her childcare better" but it's not that simple is it? Plus we have been friend for a long time and she has been very good to me in the past. Isn't this what friends do? I think I could ask her if I needed childcare...which I dont at the moment...but if I did she would help.

MrsPollifaxInnocentTourist Sun 21-Aug-11 09:19:01

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HoneyPablo Sun 21-Aug-11 09:19:13

YADNBU
You sound like a very good friend.

Annpan88 Sun 21-Aug-11 09:19:48

If your happy with it and doing the care (as in your DH doesn't have to) then I'd say keep doing it. The world would be an awful place if we didn't all help eachother out.

nannynick Sun 21-Aug-11 09:38:02

If her childcare arrangements are failing on a regular basis, then yes she should try to find a solution to that. It's not easy though... whatever form of childcare they choose next may be more reliable, about the same, or worse.

Yes, friends look after each other. You are helping them out, as you are able to do so at this time. Over time that may change and it may be you needing the help, which with luck your friend may be able to help you with.

MumblingRagDoll Sun 21-Aug-11 10:21:31

nanny it seems to be a combination of things....her minder is going away...which she kne about ages ago...so she had asked her teenage neice to step in...the teenage niece has now made other arrangements and her DP can't get time of work with such short notice.

Or other times it has been that her DP has been unabe to take time off and she can't really either...

HappyMummyOfOne Sun 21-Aug-11 10:26:05

Ask him if he'd like friends not to help out of the situation was reversed and he needed the childcare to go to work

Good friends help each other out, its part of being in a friendship.

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn Sun 21-Aug-11 10:27:48

If you don't mind then there's no problem, it's not every week and you know she apricates it.

MumblingRagDoll Sun 21-Aug-11 10:33:23

That's what I thought. It's fine isnt it!

pictish Sun 21-Aug-11 10:41:20

I wouldn't say once a month is taking the piss.
Sounds alright to me - I would do it too.

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn Sun 21-Aug-11 10:42:05

The real question us why it bothers your dh?

MumblingRagDoll Sun 21-Aug-11 10:50:07

Because theres a big difference between 2 DC and three...especially when one is at the climbing stage lovebingathome DH wors hard and is often very tired. My DC get over excited when the baby is here too.

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn Sun 21-Aug-11 10:55:35

Ok so you sound like you are defending there so if it bothers him that much and you know that then don't do it.

pippilongsmurfing Sun 21-Aug-11 11:09:39

It sounds like you are only considering that your friend is taking the pee because your DH has said something.

Was this an issue that bothered you before your DH said anything??

Tuppence2 Sun 21-Aug-11 12:12:40

My only question is do you believe she would do the same for you if the roles were reversed?
I think you are definitely being a good friend she can rely on, but these situations can turn very quickly from relying on someone as a back up plan, to taking them for granted.

MumblingRagDoll Sun 21-Aug-11 12:15:37

If I'm honest I think I'm being relied on a bit too much. I only thought it when DH said so. I DO think she'd do the same for me but tbh her schedule i so full it's kind of out of the question. They live in the same village so its easy too.

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