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AIBU?

To be available to babysit for my mate?

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MumblingRagDoll · 21/08/2011 09:16

My friend asks me to look after her 1 year old DD quite often...she and he DH work very long hours and she works in another city..she sometimes asks me to have her DD for the morning when she's been let down.

It's about once a month. She has no parents or siblings. I always say yes...I have 2 DDs of my own and they love the baby so it seems like a good thing all round.

DH has recently had a moan about it though and says my friend is taking the pee...he is often around when the baby is here and though he's fond of her I think it gets a bit much for him.....

He thinks she "needs to sort out her childcare better" but it's not that simple is it? Plus we have been friend for a long time and she has been very good to me in the past. Isn't this what friends do? I think I could ask her if I needed childcare...which I dont at the moment...but if I did she would help.

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MrsPollifaxInnocentTourist · 21/08/2011 09:19

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HoneyPablo · 21/08/2011 09:19

YADNBU
You sound like a very good friend.

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Annpan88 · 21/08/2011 09:19

If your happy with it and doing the care (as in your DH doesn't have to) then I'd say keep doing it. The world would be an awful place if we didn't all help eachother out.

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nannynick · 21/08/2011 09:38

If her childcare arrangements are failing on a regular basis, then yes she should try to find a solution to that. It's not easy though... whatever form of childcare they choose next may be more reliable, about the same, or worse.

Yes, friends look after each other. You are helping them out, as you are able to do so at this time. Over time that may change and it may be you needing the help, which with luck your friend may be able to help you with.

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MumblingRagDoll · 21/08/2011 10:21

nanny it seems to be a combination of things....her minder is going away...which she kne about ages ago...so she had asked her teenage neice to step in...the teenage niece has now made other arrangements and her DP can't get time of work with such short notice.

Or other times it has been that her DP has been unabe to take time off and she can't really either...

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HappyMummyOfOne · 21/08/2011 10:26

Ask him if he'd like friends not to help out of the situation was reversed and he needed the childcare to go to work

Good friends help each other out, its part of being in a friendship.

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LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn · 21/08/2011 10:27

If you don't mind then there's no problem, it's not every week and you know she apricates it.

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MumblingRagDoll · 21/08/2011 10:33

That's what I thought. It's fine isnt it!

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pictish · 21/08/2011 10:41

I wouldn't say once a month is taking the piss.
Sounds alright to me - I would do it too.

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LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn · 21/08/2011 10:42

The real question us why it bothers your dh?

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MumblingRagDoll · 21/08/2011 10:50

Because theres a big difference between 2 DC and three...especially when one is at the climbing stage lovebingathome DH wors hard and is often very tired. My DC get over excited when the baby is here too.

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LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn · 21/08/2011 10:55

Ok so you sound like you are defending there so if it bothers him that much and you know that then don't do it.

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pippilongsmurfing · 21/08/2011 11:09

It sounds like you are only considering that your friend is taking the pee because your DH has said something.

Was this an issue that bothered you before your DH said anything??

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Tuppence2 · 21/08/2011 12:12

My only question is do you believe she would do the same for you if the roles were reversed?
I think you are definitely being a good friend she can rely on, but these situations can turn very quickly from relying on someone as a back up plan, to taking them for granted.

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MumblingRagDoll · 21/08/2011 12:15

If I'm honest I think I'm being relied on a bit too much. I only thought it when DH said so. I DO think she'd do the same for me but tbh her schedule i so full it's kind of out of the question. They live in the same village so its easy too.