Bit of Background (and a rant)
I'm currently pregnant and have been with DH for 5 years.
When we met he was a newly single parent with a tiny 8th month old DS. We were very close friends (I shared a flat with his sister) for about a year before we finally got together. DS birth mum is not in the picture and has never been and will never be.
I adopted DS after me and DH had been together for around 3 years. I'm his mum.
However.
DH is 7 years older than me (I'm 29) and since getting pregnant I have had lots of comments from people saying that I must be glad to be finally having a child of my own and from people informing me that it will be different this time and I can finally be a 'proper mum'
This has been from some people I work with (though not close work friends), and when I have bumped into people who kind of know DH from many years ago. me and DS bumped into one at the shop and she said to DS that 'he must be happy to be having a new half sibling' DS asked me what a half sibling was and I didn't know what to say. (DS does know I did not give birth to him btw)
It has also come from some fringe members of DH extented family (the ones you see once every 4 year - one wrote in a congratualtions card 'you must be very happy to be finally having a child of your own -name-'
I am having our second child - end of.
AIBU for people just to accept that? (especially family members) I have tried to tell them they are wrong, but they will not accept it or chose to ignore it. It has got to the point where I just freeze when someone says it.
I don't know what to do - DH doesn't have this problem and though obviously read cards isn't there when people say things :(
I don't see what peoples problem is????????
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I'm having DC2 not DC1 - AIBU for people to accept that???
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wearenotamused · 19/08/2011 14:28
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