www.awareparenting.com/timeout.htm
There is a group on Facebook who basically advocate against punishing your child. They say that putting your toddler in time out and praising him for good behaviour is teaching "conditional love". An example: "I would say that you are teaching your child conditional, rather than unconditional love. Time-outs and punishments do that. Look at how he is so quick to come to you and apologize. It's not because he knows what he did was wrong, it's because he knows he upset mommy and wants her love. Between the two, I can guarantee you that the child is worried more about losing mommies love than learning a lesson. Also, praise will teach conditional love too. When you say - "the more praise you give the more positive behavior you will see," you are showing how he can please mommy and gain her conditional love." (this in response to someone saying they use time out).
What drew my attention to this is that I had a friend who has a child DD's age (2). Friends child is/was out of control, destroying her house and other people's houses (think black coal all over my white sofa when our backs were turned , hitting or pushing my DD, taking toys off my DD, screaming if she didn't get her own way (mum always gave in), etc etc etc. Said friend never did anything in any of these situations and it all came to a head and I had to stop seeing her. She thinks its because she doesn't use time out. sigh.
Anyway, thoughts?
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banana87 · 17/08/2011 21:22
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