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74slackbladder Tue 16-Aug-11 16:31:45

Bit of a dilemma, during a wine-fuelled chat, i vaguely agreed to contribute to a gift for a for a lady who is essentially a friend of a friend.
Background...My friend (lets call her Jane) & I having drinks, she invites other lady (lets call her Janet), who I know, only through our kids previously going to same nursery. Janet I have only ever spoken to maybe twice in my whole life, and is having a baby - I did not know this till I saw her the other day. So, we discuss what she needs for baby etc, and I get all enthusiastic about offloading all our baby stuff which I plan not need again (!), then we gradually get round to buying a gift...I'm going along with it as it would seem rude not to and in my head I am thinking small token gesture, nothing too big as I dont really know the person and am not into spending lots of money on gifts for people I dont know too well.
So, should I contribute to the chosen gift, costing £45, only two of us sharing cost, so I am guessing plus delivery we are talking £50, so £25 each.
And if I don't how do I politely extract myself from this deal without seeming like a miserable and tight old bag?

momobiker Tue 16-Aug-11 16:33:47

Maybe explain that you think that is too much to spend on somebody you barely knowand if they make the gift cheaper you will consider contributing. If they cant change the gift, dont contribute

SenoritaViva Tue 16-Aug-11 16:35:09

I don't think you seem miserable. Explain the wine maybe got the better of you and although you always think it's nice to get something small that that is way over the top for someone you hardly know. Just be honest.

ZillionChocolate Tue 16-Aug-11 18:26:19

Way too much to spend on someone you hardly know!

DurhamDurham Tue 16-Aug-11 18:30:31

Just explain that you were drunk at the time and that no sober person would agree to spend that much money on someone they didn't know. Don't act sorry or guilty, laugh it off but do not apologise. Good Luck.

G1nger Tue 16-Aug-11 18:33:41

Are you still giving her a bunch of free baby stuff? No need for a gift. Honestly, even if my sister (who's given me lots of things) didn't get a special 'gift' I'd accept that. She's already been very generous, as are you being.

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