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to think I should not be threatened with a ban for questioning the use of offensive language?

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thefirstMrsDeVere Tue 16-Aug-11 15:35:55

I am a member of a very heavily moderated website. Swearing is not allowed at all, threads are pulled regularly if people are mean to each other, not threads about threads are tolerated and you are not allowed to mention anything said before on the boards at all. All these things will result in deletion and warnings.

I have been a member for years (before mumsnet even). There was a particularly nasty thread that was allowed to go on for pages which ended with a woman referring to children with LDs as 'being tapped in the head'..

I started a seperate thread wanting to discuss the use of disabilist language on the site and asking why words like bitch, whore and piss were not allowed yet retard, mong and spaz were.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

I continuned to question this in a firm but polite manner and have now discovered I have been sent a message telling me that my style of posting is offensive and I have been taken straight to a final warning!

Not that I give a toss, the site is crap. I guess I am taken aback that you can be pretty much threatened into silence if you dare question the mods on this HUGE and well known site.

Its an issue that means a lot to me. If it was a site on which everything went language wise I wouldnt have bothered. But on this prissy site where you cant say bugger - you can call something retarded or monged out with no bother.

I think its bollocks and makes me glad I have mumsnet to come and tell people to fuck off on. grin

scurryfunge Tue 16-Aug-11 15:38:04

Sounds grim. Which site is it?

AuntiePickleBottom Tue 16-Aug-11 15:38:31

your not talking about either netsmum or even worse bounty are you

AnnieLobeseder Tue 16-Aug-11 15:38:37

Tell them all to fuck right off, turn on your heel and gracefully leave. I wouldn't waste my time on a forum where such terms were acceptable. Even on here where you can swear all you like, you'll get a right bashing for using disabilist words, and quite rightly so.

LaBelleFrotheur Tue 16-Aug-11 15:40:05

You were unfaithful to MN?! Tsk.

PlentyOfPubgardens Tue 16-Aug-11 15:41:03

I used to be on a forum like that. It's a big reason why I left.

thefirstMrsDeVere Tue 16-Aug-11 15:41:56

Yep it is fucking netmums.

They also told me that I had to treat the email as confidential and not share it on the boards or 'anywhere else on the internet'. Fucking cheek!

I dont know why I have stuck it there. I did ask them to delete me account a while ago but they said they couldnt. Well they will now wont they?

slightlyunbalanced Tue 16-Aug-11 15:42:53

It it the BBC site?! grin

thefirstMrsDeVere Tue 16-Aug-11 15:43:26

I didnt just do that.


AnyFucker Tue 16-Aug-11 15:44:23

Serves you right for posting on an inferior site wink

MN has it's foibles, but you can at least swear like a trooper, and other people will very quickly pull you up on racist, disablist, sexist etc comments

It sounds like it's populated by a bunch of ignoramuses...get yourself banned but not before you say your piece grin

nickelbabe Tue 16-Aug-11 15:45:14

the problem with that site, then, is not their moderation for swearing, but the fact that they believe it's perfectly fine to be abusive?

they're all twats.
this is why you're a MNer - you can speak your mind here, and you are treated as an adult, and abuse is not allowed (by the other members!)

ProcrastinatorGeneral Tue 16-Aug-11 15:45:47

MrsDeV I love you grin

AnyFucker Tue 16-Aug-11 15:45:51

ha !

if Facebook allows a whole page purely to slag off named posters from MN, then you can say what you like about Nethuns

EuphemiaMcGonagall Tue 16-Aug-11 15:46:29

Netmums sounds like the Daily Mail of internet fora - you're far too good for them; tell them to shove their site.

thefirstMrsDeVere Tue 16-Aug-11 15:47:55

I am just building up a head of steam before I outrage them on the thread by revealing I have been threatened with a banning. It will be removed in seconds so I dont want to peak too soon.

nenevomito Tue 16-Aug-11 15:47:58

I can guess which one it is as I think I've seen you over there!

Yes it is messed up that swearwords are not OK, but disablist language is.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

Well some (ignorant) people think its OK to say Paki, but it doesn't mean that they should.

I think its OK to say ratfucking buggery bollocksing twat badgers. But on said site it would not be OK, sadly, even though that is my considered and educated opinion that that is the correct term for people who call others spaz or mong.

lou33 Tue 16-Aug-11 15:49:05

Am I making this up, or was netmums started by a mn poster who was unhappy with how it was run? I am talking many years ago btw.

BeerTricksPotter Tue 16-Aug-11 15:50:00

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AnyFucker Tue 16-Aug-11 15:50:26

MrsDV...could you copy it to here please, when you've done it


AnnieLobeseder Tue 16-Aug-11 15:50:50

I think I love you babyheave.

MissPenteuth Tue 16-Aug-11 15:51:00

What FB page is that AnyFucker? And is my name on it?

nickelbabe Tue 16-Aug-11 15:51:05

please post the email here

i've replied to your thread, btw, and just after a post from one of the mods basically saying that it was okay for it to happen, because noone reported it.

ProcrastinatorGeneral Tue 16-Aug-11 15:51:26

<feels slightly unclean for having logged into NM for the first time in...>

StrandedBear Tue 16-Aug-11 15:52:01

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

nickelbabe Tue 16-Aug-11 15:52:03

PG i only ever log on to slag it off! grin

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