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I don't agree with the MN feminists. AIBU?

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jennyvstheworld Mon 15-Aug-11 10:17:57

I consider myself an active proponent of equality of opportunity and a stern critic of discrimination... and yet I find that I can't identify with many of the viewpoints I encounter on the MN feminism page (and often say so). AIBU?

Morloth Mon 15-Aug-11 10:19:15

Um OK?

You don't have to agree with them if you don't want to. You can't however expect them to suddenly agree with you and not express their viewpoints however they like.

What is your point?

JacksonPollocks Mon 15-Aug-11 10:19:49

I'm a mum and I disagree with many other mums.
I'm a christian yet I disagree with the views of some other christians.
I'm a teacher and I dislike the current education policy.

It's a broad broad group and there will be many sub-groups within it. As with all large groups.

worraliberty Mon 15-Aug-11 10:20:05

YANBU I can't read the feminism board because most of it sends my blood pressure sky high grin

Well, YANBU. You don't have to agree with anyone. I'm guessing you've had a kicking on the feminism board?

ChristinedePizan Mon 15-Aug-11 10:21:00

YABU to make out that there is a party line. There isn't. And I don't understand why you felt you needed to post a thread in AIBU to draw attention to the fact that you disagree with some posters in that forum.

Ephiny Mon 15-Aug-11 10:21:21

YANBU, everyone has their own opinions, and there's no rule that you have to agree with the 'consensus' view on here (if there is such a thing, there seems to be quite a mix of viewpoints on most subjects).

Wondering what your point is as well though...

wearingpurple Mon 15-Aug-11 10:21:22

YANBU in terms of entitlement to your opinions, of course.

YABU in presuming 'mn feminists' to be a homogeneous group.

chibi Mon 15-Aug-11 10:21:52

well feminism is a broad church, like most political movements and there are different feminisms, most fundamentally radical vs liberal feminisms

YABU to expect us to all agree on everything all the time.

At heart though i think we all have our starting position that women are as a class everywhere oppressed, and we seek to liberate women from that oppression

jennyvstheworld Mon 15-Aug-11 10:22:21

I wanted to see what other MNetters thought. AIBU? grin

ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin Mon 15-Aug-11 10:23:34

Why on earth should you be considered unreasonable if you disagree with someone else's point of view?
If you can have a discussion, or a heated argument and stay away from personalised attack, then it's all fine.
I've never known the feminist board object to discussing differences of opinion, although like in other areas of this forum,. if your reasons are just 'Well, because I say so' then you may have your argument dissected for evidence. Which can be uncomfortable, but it is a natural result.
Debate is a good thing, surely?

solidgoldbrass Mon 15-Aug-11 10:24:15

So you don't agree with some people on the feminist forum. What do you want, a cookie?

ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin Mon 15-Aug-11 10:25:55

I like them SGB, and looking at the slogans, I could eat the lot! grin

Whatmeworry Mon 15-Aug-11 10:26:28

Most don't - the were 2 threads of 1000+ posts here when I joined saying much the same, and I got the impression this topic crops up all the time ( as it has grin )

BertieBotts Mon 15-Aug-11 10:26:57

Oh those are brilliant, SGB

TheRealTillyMinto Mon 15-Aug-11 10:28:43

My version of feminisim is different than most of the MN feminists & i was surprised by that.

What is your view?

CaptainNancy Mon 15-Aug-11 10:33:03

You may be a 'an active proponent of equality of opportunity and a stern critic of discrimination...' but are you a feminist? Because that could describe many people coming from many different schools of thought, most of which have nothing to do with feminism.

YABU anyway- the whole point of having a feminist/womens rights board is to have debate. If everyone had the same viewpoint, there would be no discussion. Feminists are not a homogeneous group any more than mothers are or women, or football fans.

ThePosieParker Mon 15-Aug-11 10:52:22

I'm not sure all of the so called MN feminists have a united POV on everything. I do notice some not participating in certain 'feminist' conversations, I can only assume that they don't agree especially when so vocal elsewhere.

Unfortunately, as like anywhere else, there are a few louder voices and so people assume that's the majority view.

seeker Mon 15-Aug-11 10:54:29

Don't agree with them about what? How to pronounce scone? How to solve the debt crisis? Which are the top 10 films of all time? the right way to potty train? string theory?

Yama Mon 15-Aug-11 10:57:45

Are the Mumsnet Feminist some Borg-like entity?

JockTamsonsBairns Mon 15-Aug-11 10:57:48

"I don't agree with the MN Feminists. AIBU?"

What does this actually mean?
What is an 'MN Feminist'?
Do they all hold the same views on everything?
What is it you disagree with them about? Is it feminism itself you disagree with them about, or other stuff in general?

What a silly thread, one clearly designed to court controversy.

<falls into trap>

Yama Mon 15-Aug-11 10:58:37

I love your name Jock.

AnyFucker Mon 15-Aug-11 11:01:14

Daft thread

Debate your point at the time, on the thread. Had you expected everybody on the Feminist topic to magically come round to your POV ?

It's OK to disagree, innit

EricNorthmansMistressOfPotions Mon 15-Aug-11 11:03:58


piprabbit Mon 15-Aug-11 11:06:01

As far as I can tell, most MNer's posting in the Feminism topic fail to agree with each other as well. It is the debate that is the important bit, how else can we learn?

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