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AIBU?

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cheesespread · 13/08/2011 22:38

for the 1st time in 16 months i asked my mum to have my DS for a few hours so i could go through the house making sure it was spotless for PILs comin to vist for the day tomorrow,my mum has DS when DH and me are at work so this was a rare day for me to spend on my own

so.. DS goes out with his nanna and DH is at work,so im in my PJs and decide to put my old stereo on in living room,we have lived in our house for 2 years and i can count on 1 hand the amount of times ive had my stereo on usually have radio on in kitchen,i picked an old CD with dance music on,got the hoover and duster out,put the stereo on loud and got on with my housework,it was 12.30pm

10 mins later hear hammering on my front door,answers door to see next door neighbour he shoutS "WILL YOU TURN THAT FUCKING MUSIC DOWN NOW !!!!! ",he then went on to lecture me about how ill he is and that he doesnt sleep well,i got upset (i cry when angry ) i told him i was sorry and i never have music on that loud normally,he them stormed off

30 mins later he knocks on door again to say sorry,i told him all he had to do was ask me nicely and i would have turned it off or down without a problem,i told him he had no right talking to me the way he did swearing at me,he said he had reached boiling point with me ? he said he cant stand it when one of his 4 kids have music on or play on there x box,i told him that wasnt my problem what his kids did

DH went round after work and went off it,the neighbour just kept banging on about how ill he is and that he sleeps thru the day coz he cant sleep on a night,DH said we are quiet people normally u have to expect a little noise of people,the neighbour reckons since we have lived next door he s made his kids keep quiet for US !! WTF we have never ever said anything to them other than "hello " then his wife got her bit in sayin as soon as DH goes out i blast music !! this is not true at all i work and go to college or im out shopping

i dont no what the point of this post was i just need to vent,i said sorry to the bloke and told him i would have more consideration in the future,he just made me feel like a 5 year old

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lachesis · 13/08/2011 22:40

There's never any reason to blast loud music. No one wants to listen to your idea of music. Get some wireless ear phones.

BeerTricksPotter · 13/08/2011 22:41

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LynetteScavo · 13/08/2011 22:41

YANBU

They sound like nutters.

FabbyChic · 13/08/2011 22:42

I have loud music sometimes not a lot, tend to wear headphones and sing my head off.

Sounds like they are taking the piss with their nasty sarcastic comments, ignore them.

Lucyinthepie · 13/08/2011 22:42

He came and apologised. Why couldn't you have accepted that and tried to keep things civilised? Now your DH "went off it", and made things much worse.

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Sandalwood · 13/08/2011 22:46

Was there any need for your DH to go round? Other than to make things worse?

Pigsinblankets · 13/08/2011 22:46

Sounds like you're both sorry for what you did but it's gone a bit too far to back down. Perhaps be the 'bigger man', go around and apologise and suggest you put the whole episode behind you. It's not worth falling out with the neighbours for something so trivial.....

thisisyesterday · 13/08/2011 22:47

he apologised. you accepted the apolgy i presume?

why on earth did your husband go round and start having a go again?

of course him and his wife got all defensive, i would too if i was being confronted by someone on behalf of someone else.
you annoyed him, he shouted then he apologised. over and done with.

A1980 · 13/08/2011 22:47

You had dance music on so loud it could be heard above a hoover in the early afternoon! I'd would have been round to tell you to turn it off too.
There's no need for it! You're not a 16 year old.

He shouldn't have sworn at you though.

cheesespread · 13/08/2011 22:48

i did accept his apology,i asked my OH not to go round and leave it,he said he wasnt having a bloke talk to his wife like that i couldnt stop him, im sure most men wouldnt put up with a bloke talking to his wife like shit ,he was really nasty to me !

Lynette - they are pretty strange like

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A1980 · 13/08/2011 22:48

why on earth did your husband go round and start having a go again?

That is a good point. Maybe you are 16 if you need your husband to sort it out after it's been dealt with

A1980 · 13/08/2011 22:49

Sorry! Cross post. Sounds like your OH inflamed the situaiton.

lachesis · 13/08/2011 22:51

'i asked my OH not to go round and leave it,he said he wasnt having a bloke talk to his wife like that i couldnt stop him, im sure most men wouldnt put up with a bloke talking to his wife like shit ,'

And you had 'dance music' on so loud it was easily heard over a hoover as well.

You two sound like a really mature, considerate pair. NOT.

I feel sorry for your neighbours.

cheesespread · 13/08/2011 22:52

A1980 i dont need anyone to sort things out for me,my OH didnt go round shouting and swearing he just stated it wasnt acceptable to talk to me the way he did

what so im like a 16 year old coz i have a bit of loud music on once in 16 months !

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cheesespread · 13/08/2011 22:54

ah well think yourself lucky Lachesis that we dont live next door to you as we are so inconsiderate

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lachesis · 13/08/2011 22:54

Yes, pretty much. Get some wireless headphones. No one wants to hear it. I had a neighbour who liked her 'dance music', too. So glad I got her evicted.

lachesis · 13/08/2011 22:55

The more you post, yes, the more thankful I feel I don't have a neighbour like you.

cheesespread · 13/08/2011 22:56

did she play it once in 16 months too eh?

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lachesis · 13/08/2011 22:57

So aggro, cheese. Keep going, you're showing your true colours here.

HelloTeapot · 13/08/2011 22:57

I think i would be pretty annoyed by the music to, especially as DD doesnt sleep very well at the moment so if i had an hour to nap and then heard music that loud, id be pretty pissed off

He should not have spoke to you like that atall way out of order

A1980 · 13/08/2011 22:57

I haven't felt the need to blast music out since I was at college and a teenager. Even then I waited until the hall floor was empty. There was one day during the week when they were all out at the same lecture. So I was more considerate to my neighbours at 18 then you are as a mother with children.

It's simply unacceptable and extremely childish to blast music so loud it can be heard above a hoover when you clearly have a terraced or semi detached house. I'm glad you're not my neighbours!

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thisisyesterday · 13/08/2011 22:59

to be fair it doesn't matter if it is only once in 16 months.

why can no-one be civil and considerate any more? if you choose to have music on that loud when you have close neighbours then you have to accept that this may annoy them and they may ask you to turn it down.

you're right that he shouldn't have shouted and sworn. but he came and apologised and that ought to have been the end of it

if my DP insisted on going and sticking up for me and treating me like a possession and like i'm incapable of dealing with a situation myself I'd be pretty fucking angry with him,.

all your husband has done is inflame the situation.

A1980 · 13/08/2011 23:01

I would never have played loud music at home as we have neighbours. So in a Uni hall of residence when nobody else was in was the only time I did it. Even then it wasn't loud to the extent where you could hear it above a hoover. Nowhere close to that volume.

You try and justify it by saying once in 16 months.... it never accpetable to do that and disturb other in that manner.

Sandalwood · 13/08/2011 23:01

So your mum babysat for the first time ... since the last time she babysat and you're upset that your neighbour lost it with the loud dance music blaring?
Then your DH goes over, inspite of your pleas of "Oi DH, leave it".

I'm not really feeling too much sympathy tbh.

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