Okay, maybe I am being a little unsociable but I don't think I'm unreasonable....
To cut a long story short, I was up early this morning with both children,then I took my DS to football and then out for a hectic afternoon with friends and their children. I'd been busy all day and eve yesterday (as DH had gone out to a festival for the day/eve with some friends who are visiting from another part of the country).
I have horrible period pains today and when I got home this late afternoon I just wanted to put my comfy pyjamas on, eat some chocolate and slob around the house for the afternoon (the pyjamas in the afternoon may sound terrible but in my defence, my DD is only four months old and I don't have many comfy clothes I fit into yet!).
I actually said to DH when I got home: " You don't have any friends coming over this afternoon, do you?". When he said no, I said: "Good, I really don't feel like making conversation with anyone and I just want to chill out and read the paper for a bit".
-A quick bit of background here - DH is a lot more sociable than I am and likes to leave the front door of our home open so that his friends can stroll in and out as they please. Some of them walk in without knocking, which I hate and I have had issues with DH before about this. I am a friendly and polite parson but I prefer my friends to call before coming over. Normally, if DH's friends descend and I'm not in the mood for small talk (happened a bit when I was tired and pregnant) I go and read a book in the bedroom, but today I wanted to relax on my own sofa! We have an upstairs living area, so actually going into my room (which is downstairs) and closing the door is the only way of avoiding people I don't want to see -
About half an hour after my conversation with DH, he said: "Bob is coming over in a minute, don't worry, he won't stay long, he's just picking something up". I said " I specifically asked you NOT to invite anyone over!!". DH replied-"He invited himself, I couldn't say no, he won't stay, why don't you just chill out in the bedroom while he's here?". I stomped off, still in my tartan pj's. His friend arrived, with his young DD in tow and stayed for over an hour. During this time I had to go and get my DD from upstairs to feed her which meant i had to stand and make conversation with the friend, in pjs, with wild hair, feeling really fed up and not in the mood for small talk at all. He's a nice enough guy, but that's NOT THE POINT!! (Am I becoming unreasonable now?! maybe it's PMT).
So, this evening, DH was on the phone to the friends he was meeting up with again and I heard him say: I'll see you at mine in a bit". This is group of his friends I don't know well, haven't seen for some time and some who I haven't even met. At this point, our children were safely in bed and I was happily sitting, in the chaos of our kitchen, eating a Chinese take-away (I know, I'm making myself sound disgusting... but it has just been one of those days and I couldn't face either cooking or cleaning ).
The thought of a group of men traipsing through my house, and having to be INTRODUCED to people whilst wearing pyjamas and eating a take-away was horrifying. I like to meet new people when I am fully dressed and at least wearing a bit of mascara - I don't think that's unreasonable! I also like to tidy up a little before we have visitors. I bellowed -"You are not bringing anyone else in here today!!" at DH. He assured me that he was going straight out when they came.
10 mins later, I hear him coming up the stairs talking to someone. WTF??! I actually abandoned my food and rushed off to the bedroom (as I write this I realise I'm sounding a little insane). I could hear DH saying "She's not feeling well" to the friend he was with, who was asking where I was. DH came in and saw how furious I was. He was saying "I'm sorry, I told him to wait outside but he just followed me up". I hissed at him to "Get out" and, eventually, off they went (the others had actually waited outside).
Am I being completely unreasonable and perhaps a little insane?! Or should I be able to expect a day without visitors becuase that's what I want?
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AngryBadger · 13/08/2011 20:06
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