She has numerous friends where we live but there is a lovely 9yr old boy who she plays with mostly, they knock on for each other! However, they were holding hands the other day and when questioned she said (rather embarassingly) that he was her boyfriend and her younger brother also said they were kissing (on cheek and lips) Any advise on how to deal with this would be appreciated - on one hand i think it's quite sweet and on the other i can see she'll be pregnant by the age of 10 (if that's at all possible lol)
Strandedbear - oh course i have a high opinion of her, it was a turn of phrase and no, i genuinely don't think that - what i was trying to get across is that yes, while i see it as sweet and innocent, she is obviously starting to grow up and would appreciate some advise on how to deal with this stage, the explaining of relationships etc and should it be something we should be tackling now or later and should i just let this run it's course. She's had "boyfriends" before but never kissed (as far as i know) and wondered what to do (if anything)
I had a boyfriend at 9. It was actually quite a long term relationship - about 8 months. But, like Eau said, most of that time was spent not talking to each other, and when he dumped me he got a girl in his class to do it. We danced to slow songs at school discos, and after each one he kissed me on the cheek, which to my 9 yr old self was the height of romance! I think he kissed me on the lips once, when his friend dared him to do it, and it was a tiny chaste peck.
Thanks everyone, i mentioned to DD that kissing shouldn't really be happening yet and their friends might be uncomfortablee with it too which she seemed to appreciate and on the safe side i'm going to make her brother chaprone her EVERYWHERE lol
Why can't children of the opposite sex be friends without adult labels being given to the relationship? My daughter will not have a bloody 'boyfriend' until she is old enough to actually have one- ie go out on dates, kiss etc.
She is in year 5 and a lot of the girls are consumed by the whole boyfriend business, falling out with other girls over boys, kissing in corners. It's ridiculous. They are children.
Tell her she's too young for a bloody boyfriend and to enjoy the friendship in an appropriate childish manner.