My dh and I have been renting for the last 2 years, due to not being able to afford the area that we want to live in.
Of course we'd love to buy rather than rent, but accept that finances are what they are, and like the house we are renting.
Anyway for the last 2 years my mother on a nearly weekly basis has moaned about the fact that we were renting and not owning our own home.
4 weeks ago she said she has the cash to give us effectively our inheritance early, and she would give us the difference to buy a house in this area.
3 weeks ago we found a house we loved, I asked her to come and see if she was happy with it. She loved the house, came back to our house, proceeded to tell the kids (who up until this point were in the dark about moving), how wonderful the house was and how much they would like it.
She told me to sort our mortgage out. We've done this in principle. She then phoned tonight and asked what was happening, and I said it's moving, but we need to know how much she is inputting. She said that she wasn't putting any money in and we'd have to fund it ourselves.
I am gutted, my dh is angry she's built our hopes up, and we've now got to tell the kids we can't afford it.
I honestly can't work out whether she does it out of spite, or whether she says things and thinks they are true at the time and then forgets she's said them, or whether she's some sort of amnesia where she forgets what she agrees to.
I can't believe any mother would go out to upset her daughter/grandchildren so much intentionally.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
to be very upset by my mother's behaviour?
72 replies
Sonearyetsofar · 12/08/2011 23:01
OP posts:
MadamDeathstare ·
12/08/2011 23:06
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
MadamDeathstare ·
12/08/2011 23:07
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
MadamDeathstare ·
12/08/2011 23:14
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.