I'm 26 weeks pregnant, and I'm trying to think of who can babysit our DD (13 months) when the time to go into hospital comes.
Of course I want my mum, but DH disagrees. My folks are in their late 60's, but that's not the problem - dad smokes like mad, and the whole house reeks of it! He does refrain for a couple of hours if he knows I'm going, but the house still smells, and depending on circumstances we may not have time to forewarn them anyway. They also have two dogs, which aren't the best behaved, and my mum can be forgetful to shut the dogs out. My sister also looks after dogs, and regularly brings them to my mum's house - and lets them loose - and they're 'unknown' dogs, meaning I don't think that you can safely say how they'll react... finally the house is quite dirty :(
Ideally, mum would come here, better for DD, as her toys are here, and she's OK when mum looks after her here (also ideal if in labour at night, as her cot is here). DD cries and clings to me at my parent's, so she'd be unhappy. Only problem is my mum feels more comfortable in her own home, and dislikes being away.
Wouldn't ask my sister - she kinda ignores her own son, and he's a brat when he comes here - breaking DD's toys, and trying to pinch her (he's 10), and his mum is oblivious! Also , she'd want DD at her house - with her menagerie of animals!
So, DH has talked to his 'friend'. This is a woman he used to sleep with, before he met me, and she fell in love with him (I wrote a thread under a different name about finding her in our home recently & her being nasty about my appearance). He thinks she'd be a good person to look after DD - but I disagree, and can't think of anything worse than a spurned woman, coming into my home whilst I'm elsewhere & incapcitated, and playing 'mum' with my DD, and probably overstepping her mark, and cooking for DH too (and in general being 'helpful' - which she is like & totally WRONG!). DH is capable of cooking (he does for me now) and looking after DD while I'm in hospital, but I worry if he asks her to sit for DD, whilst baby is being born, that she'll ingratitate herself & help in other ways - besides I DON'T WANT HER HERE - SO DH COMES HOME TO HER, TALKING ABOUT OUR NEWBORN!
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To not want DH's female friend (ex fu*k buddy) to babysit?
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Ihatetidying · 12/08/2011 16:43
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