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AIBU?

to hope my baby girl stays breech so I can have a planned C-section and skip the pesky labour and pushing business?

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Cressida1979 · 12/08/2011 15:49

I am 31 weeks so loads of time for her to turn but I am getting really into the idea of a planned CS. I have done labour and natural birth twice (once to get my DD1 and once with a less happy outcome last year which did not result in a baby being brought home) so it's not like I'm too posh to push! I know quite a few mums who have had planned CS and they all rave about them and the convenience of being able to schedule childcare for existing DCs and knowing exactly when the baby will arrive, and none of them have had long healing periods afterwards/bad pain/nasty scars.

So, please tell me what the cons of planned CS are?! Otherwise I fear I will be rather gutted when the little one does turn, and of course the odds are she will!

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StealthPolarBear · 12/08/2011 15:52

so sorry to hear about your experience. Was the VB the reason for that?

cheesesarnie · 12/08/2011 15:54

could you not just ask for a csection and explain your feelings?
planned cs dont always go to plan.two of mine were 3 weeks early.so 'scheduling childcare' wasnt an option.one of mine went wrong when they tore my bladder.as for no long healing periods/bad pain???? are you having a laugh?

carpetlover · 12/08/2011 15:54

I have no experience of a CS but I know lots of people who have had a very relaxing birth with a planned CS. Recovery seems to vary from mum to mum though.
In your shoes, having suffered the loss you did last year, I'd probably be asking for an elective anyway whether baby stays breech or not. At 31wks, there is lots of time to turn esp as this is your third. Only my 1st engaged before labour. DD2 was breech until 36wks then turned.
But, as I said, regardless of baby's position, in your shoes I'd be asking for an elective esp if you're nervous about labour and feel that a vaginal birth was partly/wholly to blame for what happened.

Geordieminx · 12/08/2011 15:55

Sorry for the loss of your baby.

You have the right to choose the birth that you want, and if you feel that strongly about wanting a c/s then you should speak to your consultant.

Cons, well its major surgery and is not without risks. It will take you a good couple of weeks to 'get back ob your feet', which may not be ideal with your dd1, you won't be able to pick her up for example (an assuming she is still a child)

I had a c/s as ds got stuck. Haven't had a vaginal birth so nothing to compare to, bit it was fine! Had him at 1pm, was home at 8pm the next day. Sore, but nothing a handful of painkillers didn't fix, no problems breast feeding.

Good luck

pugsandseals · 12/08/2011 15:55

I would never opt for a c-section! The 6 months healing time, horrible scar & 6 years of back pain (because she was breach & they couldn't get the epidural in properly) means that for me DD will forever be an only .

Elect for a c-section again? I'd rather go back to the workhouse!

EuphemiaMcGonagall · 12/08/2011 15:56

YANBU to want some control over giving birth.

It is major surgery though, not a stroll in the park. The recovery time is longer, too.

I do miss the catheter though ... some nights it would be lovely not to have to get up off the sofa!

Wishing you all the best, whichever way the wee one comes out.

jeckadeck · 12/08/2011 15:57

sorry for the loss of your baby. But YANBU. I would have literally given a limb to have had a caesarian with my labour earlier this year. Hysterical visits to the midwife/GP begging for it led nowhere and I didn't have the money or I would have gone private. But labour is the single most unpleasant thing that has ever happened to me, as I predicted it would be and I would be too phobic to do it again. If I were going to do it again (which I don't think I will) I would move heaven and earth to have a CS. By any means necessary.

carpetlover · 12/08/2011 15:59

Pugs, I'm sorry you had such a horrific time. I'm about to have No4 and wouldn't opt for a CS either. But that's because I've already had 3 reasonably straightforward vaginal births.

I think a stillbirth is a perfectly valid reason for a woman to wish for an elective next time around. Your experience sounds terrible but I don't think it's the norm although as I said, recovery time and pain afterwards does seem to vary from woman to woman.

AgentZigzag · 12/08/2011 16:00

I'm so sorry about your second pregnancy.

I don't want to really do c-sections down because I've had two myself and they were amazing.

There were two things though that nearly freaked me out was when I had DD2, I'm really squeamish, so wasn't too happy I could see the reflection of the operation going on in the big light they use, and also I had to fight the urge to panic at not being able to move my legs.

Luckily I was able to keep a lid on both of them and look forward to best tasting cup of tea ever that they provide you with afterwards, plus having a cuddle

singforsupper · 12/08/2011 16:02

If it's any help the second natural birth is usally a lot easier - not sure if you said you had had 2 natural and 2 c-sections or one of each. Your body just manages it better and psychologically with the second and you can handle the pain better. I wouldn't go for C-section simply because it's not natural and the chemicals that get your body kick-started for motherhood won't be there.

LolaRennt · 12/08/2011 16:05

I am sorry about your baby. I think maybe you are misjudging the situation though, a c-sec isn't an easy way out. It is real surgery. Hope everything goes well for you and your baby though.

carpetlover · 12/08/2011 16:09

Singforsupper, the OP stated she's had two vaginal births already and this will be her third. If you read her OP, you'll see that her second VB was certainly not easy and straightforward as it resulted in the loss of her baby.

LadyThompson · 12/08/2011 16:11

"I wouldn't go for a c-section because it's not natural" - puhleeze. Sometimes it's lifesaving. Where do you draw the line with 'not natural'? No drugs or modern medical or surgical methods?

OP, in your situation I would definitely go with a cs. I have had two and was very happy with them. Good luck.

cheesesarnie · 12/08/2011 16:16

' I wouldn't go for C-section simply because it's not natural and the chemicals that get your body kick-started for motherhood won't be there.'

really.damn i wondered why my motherhood button didnt work.thats not in the manuel,you should write a new one.

CaptainNancy · 12/08/2011 16:20

Isn't it the removal of the placenta that kick-starts the hormones necessary? Nothing to do with methid of birth.

OP- I am sorry for the loss of your baby. If you are feeling that a elcs is an option for you, please do discuss it with your mw and consultant, and be informed before making choices.

And don't forget- you can change your plans until a fairly late stage anyway. (says she who changed tack at 40+ 8 )

singforsupper · 12/08/2011 16:24

This is between me and OP - she asked, I answered there's no need to get on your pompous high horses about it. I have nothing against people having C-sections so please lighten up.

spiderpig8 · 12/08/2011 16:27

I have had 3 normal and 1 CS.VCS is much easier option IMO.
After about 3 weeks I was 99% recovered and my SIl after about 10days.Don't believe the urban myth that you can't drive for 6 weeks.Check with your insurance company.Mine said that unless the consultant said no driving ,then as soon as you feel able to do an emergency stop is ok to drive!

cheesesarnie · 12/08/2011 16:27

oh my lord.'between you and op'.terribly sorry.

my pompous highhorse is quite comfy

CaptainNancy · 12/08/2011 16:27

Well that's you lot told

GruffalosGirl · 12/08/2011 16:29

Sorry for your loss OP.

I had a planned CS after poor recovery from a 3rd degree tear from my first labour, which was with keillands forceps in theatre. DD was breech too and stayed that way.

I actually preferred the natural labour for myself but did feel the CS was much safer for my baby. That said, if I hadn't got an infection in my stitches I think the section would have been better. If I hadn't had help after the section it would have been a nightmare, you are recovering for a really long time and I still get pain in my scar after exerting myself now nearly six months on.

I was up and about easily after the surgery though and had no problems BF. Much better than after the natural delivery, when I looked like I'd been hit by a bus. Was in hospital less time with the CS and off pain relief quickly, although back on once I got the infection.

If I did it again I'd go for another section but wash the wound about ten times a day to keep it scrupulously clean. Good luck.

AgentZigzag · 12/08/2011 16:29

It's possibly your implication that 'the chemicals that get your body kick-started for motherhood won't be there' if you have a c-section singforsupper, which is a ridiculous suggestion.

carpetlover · 12/08/2011 16:33

Singforsupper, what are you talking about, 'this is between me and the OP'

You told her that second vaginal births are usually easier than first ones. Did you not read her OP???? Because whilst that may well normally be true, her second VB resulted in the death of her baby.

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singforsupper · 12/08/2011 16:34

I don't think OP wants to hear your opinions of my opinion tbh.

GruffalosGirl · 12/08/2011 16:34

And my "motherhood chemicals" have worked the same in both scenario's.

WTF, great way to try to either worry or guilt the OP into making her choice based on a pile of bollocks.

And I was a planned home water birth first time round.

beanlet · 12/08/2011 16:35

Singforsupper clearly didn't read the OP properly.

She had a second VB. Her baby died.

I'd be going for the ELCS myself.

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