She looks after DC's (7.5 and 4) for 1 sometimes 2 days a week during school holidays which is something we both decided on (I work and MIL loves taking DC's to see their cousins etc). MIL doesn't drive (neither does FIL), has always used the bus and been happy to do so (uses bus every day for work, shopping, errands etc).
She took the DC's this week to visit a relative about 1/2hr bus ride away and usually stays all day (she does this every week regardless of whether kids are with her or not). DH went to collect DCs from MILs and when they got back they said they had been brought home by Aunty xxx. No car seats used at all (am more concerned re 4yo as 7.5yo is 'only' 20cm less than legal req). MIL didn't mention this to DH and we are both not happy but not sure whether to ask MIL not to do this again as it can be a bit of a bind getting the bus and if the lift was there MIL won't have thought twice about accepting.
Just a bit of background which makes me a bit more miffed about this - MIL has form for getting the kids sweet treats when she is looking after them and asking them to keep it secret from DH and I - DCs usually blab as soon as they see us of course and I've made it clear to MIL (in a nice way I think) that I don't mind the DCs having treats/eating a bit of crap as it's not everyday and they're usually on the go so much that they probably burn it all off anyway.
MIL also looked after our house whilst we were on holiday this year and despite being asked not to bother watering the plants (they would have been fine) as I didn't want MIL turning on the taps in the house (they are all really stiff and due for replacing and she cannot turn them off tight enough) and told her this was the reason - she still did and left one dripping away and also filled the kitchen sink and stood a plant in it - unaware that the plughole is corroded and leaks into cupboard below (which we have a bowl there constantly in case of drips and this was full after MIL did this).
She's lovely and doesn't do things maliciously but I really don't know why she turns round and does the opposite thing the minute our backs are turned and tells the kids to keep secrets from us! The car seat thing pisses me off, total unecessary risk afaic, she knows I'm a stickler for the car seat law and even kept a spare booster when she used to bring DCs cousin to visit just in case we used the car.
OK this turned out to be quite long but would DH bu to have a word with MIL asking her not to do this again even though it causes more aggro for her re travel?
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to expect MIL to not take the kids in the car without car seats? Suspect IBU :-/
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oneofthosedays · 11/08/2011 19:51
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