Dh tells me that a good friend of his who lives in France has just rung to say that his au pair fancies visiting London for two or three days next week and can she come and stay with us? I work FT and we are going on holiday next Saturday, I am travelling on Friday next week so will have to pack during the evenings of the coming week. When we have friends to stay I clear out my study (which I work from home in one day a week) so that they stay there. I am not really willing to have to cook for someone's au pair each evening, give up my evenings making polite conversation each evening (dh gets in late), clear out the study, have the extra laundry etc etc. I have said to dh that I am not willing for his friend's au pair to come to stay at all and certainly not next week. AIBU to refuse this request and to think it is a bit cheeky to ask at all? Is it usual to ask friends abroad to put your au pair up?
I suppose I'm wondering if IABU as if it was a friend I would probably just grin and put up with the inconvenience. But I think it is a bit cheeky to ask us to act as free accomodation for an au pair we have met once for all of 10 minutes (unless this is what people usually do for au pairs?).
YANBU Just say, very pleasantly.....so sorry, I'm very busy next week and so it's not a good time for us, I do hope she manages to find somewhere else!
I've had years and years of saying yes to everything and feeling stressed and resentful, and now I'm nearly 50 I have been practicing saying NO to things, or things like so sorry I can't help on this occasion, and do you know what...everyone still likes me, the world keeps on turning, and I am a much nicer person when I do say yes to things! Have a nice holiday(smile)
I was asked to have a friend's teenage daughter to stay for a week while she did a work placement nearish to our home. I had three children aged three and under. I deliberated for ages before saying sorry, it was not convenient.
The friend was really shocked I said no, but it was the right thing to do.
YANBU- just say no it is not convenient as it is a very busy week.
I do think it is very cheeky of them as you don't know this girl. She is just a friend of a friend.
Friends of some of my relatives were visiting this corner of the world a few months ago but no one expected us to put them up. We met up with them for a drink one evening, which seemed to go down fine.
YANBU not to want anyone to stay but I think it's a bit overly harrumphy to say they are cheeky. I wouldn't mind one bit (except for the timing) - I'm an open house, do a favour kind of person though - you sound more 'ooh what an inconvenience' type