My dd was born with one normal and one small kidney and has had no problems for several years. We went for a routine appointment today to plan a scan to check on her progress. We couldn't see her usual consultant who has usually been quite upbeat. The consultant we saw was awful. He was very negative, despite not having her scans or proper notes. He didn't even have a proper history. He launched into an explanation of the worst case scenario including surgery, dialysis, transplantation and dd not being able to have children - all while she was in the room. It was so fast I didn't have time to tell him to shut up or get her out of the room. None of this has ever been mentioned before except as outside possibilities. The furthest the other consultant has gone is to say that dd would need a few extra checks and scans if she had surgery, was ill or was pregnant. DD fainted and was sick.
I now have a frightened nine year old who thinks she is going to die. I am furious. No, actually I am beyond furious. He has robbed me of my right as a parent to control how much she is told, how she is told and when she is told. On top of her fears about dh being in Croydon this week I now have this to deal with. She is crying and I am crying. She's still awake at the moment and keeps asking questions about not having children and does surgery hurt.
What I want to do to this man is illegal. I cannot think straight at the moment.
WIBU not to tell DH until Friday when I see him?
Should I complain, knowing that it might affect dd's care?
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AIBU?
Actually IABU but what is reasonable here?
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Helenagrace · 10/08/2011 22:54
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