Bit of background, my dad has an older sister who around 12 years ago had an affair. It causes a big divide in the family. My grandad disowned her etc. Only her sister really talked to her. I got married 2 years after and decided not to invite this Aunt due to the potential fight it might cause. She then phoned my mum giving her abuse called her a fat cow and basically told her that she was the reason she wasn't invited. Over the years the family has begun to speak to her even my grandad. My mum/dad and another of his brothers won't. I feel caught in the middle of it all as due to what happened my cousin who I was close to sent me a letter basically telling me to piss off out her life, which really upset me.
Now the real problem is my grandparents have a big anniversary coming up and I know my aunt was going to arrange a party/meal for it. Since it's only a few months away I asked my mum what was happening. She didn't know but started moaning about it. I'm going away around that time so I contacted this aunt to find out what was happening. She asked for my dads e-mail address to give him the info. I got her to send it to me instead to pass on. Basically my grandparents would like to go on a trip to the opera in Paris and my aunt and her sister suggested that the family club together to pay for it. It clearly said there was no obligation to contribute or a set amount. But to let them know what they thought. I personally thought it was lovely idea. My mum has blown her top about this demanding to know were I got it from and how she isn't being dictated to about the trip. She isn't speaking to my dad as he wants to pay towards it but she thinks my aunt is being cheeky asking the family to pay. I tried telling her to read it properly as she isn't demanding money but my mum won't listening.
I feel bad as I contacted the aunt and passed the info on but my mum wouldn't ask what was happening so someone had to ! Did I do a really stupid thing ?
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catpark · 09/08/2011 15:03
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