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JollySergeantJackrum Mon 08-Aug-11 17:43:48

I'd appreciate it if you could let me know how much time your DP gets to spend with your baby each day he's working, and how old your baby is. It'd be good if you could say what time bedtime is too.

E.g. how much non-sleep time your DP is home for.

Thank you.

MissPenteuth Mon 08-Aug-11 17:47:46

1-2 hours in the morning before work.
About 2 hours after work.

DD is 17mo.

whackamole Mon 08-Aug-11 17:48:05

How old is baby? What are DPs hours?

When my twins were first born, OH would leave at 8ish and help me before work. He would get in about 6.30 and again would either help with the boys or dinner or something. Fully mucked in if baths etc were required. Everything equal at the weekends. Bedtime was about 9pm, now brought forward to 7pm.

Now is the same really, they are 2.7, except he takes them to and from nursery as well and his hours are shorter (10-4).

What is it you are concerned about?

Georgimama Mon 08-Aug-11 17:48:23

Baby is 10 days old. Answer, not much. Bedtime for baby is pretty much my time but based on DS (now 4) it will be the norm for baby bedtime to be about 7pm and DH would be home before then 2/5 days.

lowra Mon 08-Aug-11 17:48:32

My DP gets in from work between 4.30 and 5.00 usually, and spends a couple of hours holding her/playing with her/bathing her during the evening. I usually put her to bed though and bedtime is around 8pm.

HarrietJones Mon 08-Aug-11 17:49:02

Dh gets up with dd3 6:30 & leaves 8:30. Home 5:15 , bed 7:30-8. Two days a week.
3 ish other days. He goes at lunch time & home 10-11 pm.

lowra Mon 08-Aug-11 17:49:04

DD is 4 months old

HarrietJones Mon 08-Aug-11 17:50:32

Dh is going to be looking after her two days a week when I'm at work. Cutting a day in job 2 for that. Dd3 is 10 months

Lorelai Mon 08-Aug-11 17:53:48

DD2 is 8 months, DH usually sees her for either half an hour or less in the morning and 3 hours in the evening or the other way round, depending on his shifts. Her bedtime (as in the time she actually goes to sleep) varies, but they have a bath at around 6.30 and I am feeding her to sleep from 7.15 ish until she is asleep.

faverolles Mon 08-Aug-11 17:55:34

Dc4 is 6m. Dh leaves for work at 7.30, which is when I get up with ds. He gets home at 6ish, cuddles ds for a bit, maybe an hour, then goes and does allotmenty/chickeny stuff at 7.30-8, while I bath ds and settle him down.
He's a lot less hands on than he was with the others, but we have so much going on it's difficult to fit everything in.
He does more at the weekend.

bigkidsdidit Mon 08-Aug-11 18:00:38

DS is 7mo. DH gets him up (wakes about 6) and gives him milk and breakfast, dresses him, and drops him at CM for 8.30. I do evening so he sometimes sees him to kiss goodnight but often not. At weekends we have one lie in each till 10 ish, we share the weekends 50:50 really.

JoandMax Mon 08-Aug-11 18:01:02

Mine are just 3 and 17 months - most weeks DH leaves before they are up and 4/5 days gets home after they go to bed. He always leaves work early on a Friday to get home for 5pm so has a good couple of hours with them.

Some weeks he travels for 4 days and works from home on the 5th day but it's an easy one so he will have breakfast with us, few hours work, lunch together, bit more work and be done foe their tea/bath.

DH really misses them, I email him photos when he's at work! He takes charge at weekends and does pretty much everything with them as he wants to make the most of the time.

It's hard, we both get knackered and a bit grumpy at times but not much we can do!

StrandedBear Mon 08-Aug-11 18:05:27

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Catslikehats Mon 08-Aug-11 18:12:35

DC4 is 5mths. DH leaves before we wake in the morning and sees her for maybe 45mins in the evening. He will get up in the night if she stirs but I am BF so if she wont settle he hands her over.

It's not much time but he spends a lot of time with them on the weekend.

Illegitimate Mon 08-Aug-11 18:18:09

About an hour in the morning and he is only occasionally home for bed time.
He doesn't help at night because the baby gets so excited to see him he doesn't go back down for at least another 1-2 hours

He spends lots of time with both the baby and our elder child on the weekends.

The baby is 10 months

RedHotPokers Mon 08-Aug-11 18:18:22

I have slightly older DCs (5 and 2). DH spends about an hour with them in the morning and an hour in the evening. Tbh most of this time is spent getting them dressed/undressed/bathed!! He doesn't get much of the fun time - just the tired and grouchy time!

camdancer Mon 08-Aug-11 18:24:35

I have 3 DC's (4, 2, and 2 months). DH gets the older 2 up in the morning including doing breakfast and getting them dressed. He looks after whoever is awake until 8am unless DD2 needs feeding, although I have started expressing so he can do one bottle.

He comes home between 7 and 7:30pm. He puts the older 2 to bed at about 7:45 until 8:15ish. So he does the bedtime story but I do bath before he gets home, so they have some nice time to play together before he does bedtime. He doesn't get much time in the evening with DD2 as she cluster feeds.

lovelyredwine Mon 08-Aug-11 18:30:00

DD is 7 months. Bedtime is 6-630. She's normally up in morning at 6ish. Dh leaves for work at 7 and gets back at 4.30ish. He normally gives her tea and is fully involved in bed/bath time. We alternate nights to put her down for the night as we don't want her to be too dependent on me doing it when I'm back at work. I will be working some evenings.

WiiUnfit Mon 08-Aug-11 18:30:48

DS is 2mths, we're really lucky in that DP works early mornings so is usually home by 10am & is 'on call' for his 2nd job at home so he gets to spend pretty much all day with DS unless he gets called out. Something I was extremely grateful for post-EMCS! DS is breastfed so once he's been fed in the night DP tends to do the burping / changing / settling bit, especially if DS has been cluster feeding / fussy feeding!

Paschaelina Mon 08-Aug-11 18:36:02

11months. About 25 mins before he leaves for work, he gets him up, changes nappy etc and we have a few mins in our bedroom all together. Then after work anywhere between 30 and 90 mins depending on when he gets home. Bedtime is 7pm.

Lady1nTheRadiator Mon 08-Aug-11 18:42:00

My DP has an hour before he leaves for work in the morning. He takes the baby in the bathroom and she plays while he's in there. Then he feeds her milk before he goes. He leaves at 7.30. He's back by 5.30 so we eat together then he bathes the DC and we put one each to bed. Bedtime is 7 (ish). The DC are 3.10 and 10 months. So 2.5-3 hours a day.

ZonkedOut Mon 08-Aug-11 18:44:08

On a work day, none at all - DH works away from home. DD2 is 4.5 months old.

JollySergeantJackrum Mon 08-Aug-11 18:49:30

DP leaves for work at 0710 and gets back at about 1730. I have just started instituting a routine as DS was up loads every night. As DS doesn't usually get up til 7, and feeds (BF) pretty soon after that, this means that DP will only be spending 1.5 hours with the baby each day.

DP was wondering if this was unusual as he is (understandably) feeling hard done by.

JollySergeantJackrum Mon 08-Aug-11 18:50:34

DS is 15 weeks.

Balsam Mon 08-Aug-11 18:58:26

About half an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening. We have a 2 year old and a 6 month old.

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