It's my own fault for going to soft play, I should know by now that if I go to Hell I should expect a hellish time.
2yo DS was playing on one on those Little Tikes style slide in the toddler area. A little girl of roughly the same age climbed up behind him. DS seemed to changed his mind about going down the slide, turned around and tried to go down the ladder. Finding the girl in his way he gave her a push. She fell off the ladder onto the padded floor, no tears or bumps but as soon a DS did it I was straight onto him (I was sitting at a table maybe five or six feet away so he was right in front of me). The little girl's mother also jumped up and ran over.
I took DS's hand and before even saying anything to DS I said sorry to her, she gave me the filthiest look ever, ignored the apology, and told her DD "if he pushes you again then hit him back" before stalking off. I had words with DS and would have made him apologise but didn't get the opportunity. She spent the rest of the session throwing me filthy looks, tutting every time DS wandered into her line of sight, and filthy looking him too. He tried to play in the same area as her DD, nicely this time, and she was in there like a shot to remove her with a tut and a look at DS thrown in for good measure.
AIBU to think she needs to remove the stick from up her backside? DS did push her DD but I apologised and he was reprimanded whereas her attitude and response was completely churlish. Hit him if he does it again? There's a stellar lesson. Maybe I need a thicker skin.
AIBU?
AIBU to want to shove this woman just like my DS shoved her DD?
StripedVest · 08/08/2011 16:50
She sounds a little unhinged. 2yo's push ocassionally, yes they need to be reminded to use their words but often they aren't articulate enough and can't find the right ones quick enough. Thing is though you went to help your DS, remind him of correct behaviour and apologise and check the little girl was OK.
Only thing I would say is if your DS is going through a pushing stage and doing it often you may need to get your hover wings out for a bit. 
"if he pushes you again then hit him back"
She sounds like a child rearing genius 
YANBU
All children are unfit for public life! We have to take them out and socialise them because, sadly, attic space is limited.
I think you abu about wanting to push the woman yourself,your ds and her dd had a 'normal' interaction whereby both parents could have used the experience to guide their dc towards more social behaviour- you did the right thing,she reacted very badly but I dont think you saying you want to push her is appropriate.
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Sounds like Princess syndrome to me
Your crime was to have a big bad boy who bullied her perfect daughter
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worra I tried to typed something along those lines and couldn't get it to come out right. Great post. Can you tell I have a DS and all my friends have princesses girls.
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