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AIBU to want to shove this woman just like my DS shoved her DD?

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StripedVest Mon 08-Aug-11 16:50:36

It's my own fault for going to soft play, I should know by now that if I go to Hell I should expect a hellish time.

2yo DS was playing on one on those Little Tikes style slide in the toddler area. A little girl of roughly the same age climbed up behind him. DS seemed to changed his mind about going down the slide, turned around and tried to go down the ladder. Finding the girl in his way he gave her a push. She fell off the ladder onto the padded floor, no tears or bumps but as soon a DS did it I was straight onto him (I was sitting at a table maybe five or six feet away so he was right in front of me). The little girl's mother also jumped up and ran over.

I took DS's hand and before even saying anything to DS I said sorry to her, she gave me the filthiest look ever, ignored the apology, and told her DD "if he pushes you again then hit him back" before stalking off. I had words with DS and would have made him apologise but didn't get the opportunity. She spent the rest of the session throwing me filthy looks, tutting every time DS wandered into her line of sight, and filthy looking him too. He tried to play in the same area as her DD, nicely this time, and she was in there like a shot to remove her with a tut and a look at DS thrown in for good measure.

AIBU to think she needs to remove the stick from up her backside? DS did push her DD but I apologised and he was reprimanded whereas her attitude and response was completely churlish. Hit him if he does it again? There's a stellar lesson. Maybe I need a thicker skin.

2BoysTooLoud Mon 08-Aug-11 16:53:10

YANBU - other mother sounds like an unreasonable idiot.

Pootles2010 Mon 08-Aug-11 16:55:08

No I'd have been fuming. What a cow-bag. Bet her daughter does beauty pagents <sniff>

NestaFiesta Mon 08-Aug-11 16:57:45

YANBU. You did the right thing. You reprimanded your child and made him apologise. That shows that you do not condone his behaviour therefore I would be OK with my kids playing with your DS. It's obvious you were watching him and obvious you picked him up on something straight away and you are teaching him good habits. Accidents, bumps and conflicts happen all the time between children. The other Mum over reacted.

We can train our kids but we can't operate them via remote control and sometimes they make mistakes.

StripedVest Mon 08-Aug-11 16:58:52

Thanks, glad it's not just me who found her to be petty. I thought I'd get lots of responses saying YABU, your son is obviously not fit for public life and should be locked in an attic until you're able to control him grin

youarekidding Mon 08-Aug-11 16:59:16

She sounds a little unhinged. 2yo's push ocassionally, yes they need to be reminded to use their words but often they aren't articulate enough and can't find the right ones quick enough. Thing is though you went to help your DS, remind him of correct behaviour and apologise and check the little girl was OK.

Only thing I would say is if your DS is going through a pushing stage and doing it often you may need to get your hover wings out for a bit. grin

Honeydragon Mon 08-Aug-11 17:03:24

"if he pushes you again then hit him back"

She sounds like a child rearing genius hmm


Migsy1 Mon 08-Aug-11 17:03:28

YANBU! This woman obviously can't cope with her child playing with others. She needs to get a grip. I would be furious with her too.

StripedVest Mon 08-Aug-11 17:03:46

Oh trust me, the wings have been dusted off and are on standby! I'm hoping it wasn't intentional, he had a shovey phase not long after he started being able to walk properly (as opposed to tottering baby walking) but hasn't done it in months. I'm hoping it's been an isolated incident and he did it because he couldn't get down the ladder without removing the obstacle, so to speak.

Honeydragon Mon 08-Aug-11 17:06:38

All children are unfit for public life! We have to take them out and socialise them because, sadly, attic space is limited. grin

unpa1dcar3r Mon 08-Aug-11 17:23:09

Oh well, kids of that age haven't mastered the art of how to make friends and influence people so will have, or give, the odd little shove or smack etc...

She over reacted as you did deal with it. If you hadn't it would be fair enough for her to have a go but you did. Maybe she was knackered or depressed or something, who knows.

Don't worry, you get people like this all the time. Ignore them! Or laugh at them!

nickschick Mon 08-Aug-11 17:26:49

I think you abu about wanting to push the woman yourself,your ds and her dd had a 'normal' interaction whereby both parents could have used the experience to guide their dc towards more social behaviour- you did the right thing,she reacted very badly but I dont think you saying you want to push her is appropriate.


worraliberty Mon 08-Aug-11 17:27:19

Sounds like Princess syndrome to me

Your crime was to have a big bad boy who bullied her perfect daughter hmm

nickschick Mon 08-Aug-11 17:32:54

Worra dont call the OP a princessshock.grin

worraliberty Mon 08-Aug-11 17:33:46

shock grin

stigofthelump Mon 08-Aug-11 17:45:42

Yanbu what a stupidhead wink

StayingDavidTennantsGirl Mon 08-Aug-11 17:57:44

Honeydragon - your line about children needing to be socialised because attic space is limited made me laugh - thankyou, I needed that!!

youarekidding Mon 08-Aug-11 18:04:14

worra I tried to typed something along those lines and couldn't get it to come out right. Great post. Can you tell I have a DS and all my friends have princesses girls. grin

honeydragon grin

RedHotPokers Mon 08-Aug-11 18:07:52

I don't understand all the hellish soft play scenarios.

I go regularly and have never had one problem. Maybe its because I ignore what's going on and focus on my tea and cake all the children are so well behaved!

OP YANBU - she sounds like a right cow.

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