Just got a 'payrise' as started working F/T. DH & I share childcare, cooking, housework etc equally. We're looking at finances & just had a big barney about money :(
He currently earns abit more then me - about £230 to be exact. He is saying I should pay half of my payrise in the communal pot to even out what we are both left with.
Thing is 'communal pot' would include a loan he took out before we were married, to help pay the deposit on the house. We wern't together at this time, so I don't feel I should have to pay for that. He argues that I live in the house, & get the benefit from it, so should take on equal responsibly for that loan. But to me, I live in the house & pay the mortgage - how he got the house is not really my concern. If we were to divorce (not that I am planning to,btw!) surely the courts would factor in our contributions and not just rule a 50/50 split, so he would be entitled to more of a share?
AIBU to think that the loan is not my problem? (I have my own debts, btw, e.g car loan that I am not expecting him to take responsibility for, even though he enjoys use of my car, on occasion).
I think that we should make a list of all shared costs (utilies, mortgage, childcare etc) and then pay into it proportionally from our salary. Personal costs (cars, debts, petrol, subscriptions) we should pay individually. Trouble is, I am rubbish at math, and can't work out the proportion. We have started a spreadsheet but I am practically number blind so get really confused trying to figure out what is fair.
Neither of us are particularly good with money and the argument arose from each of us feeling angry and resentful as we hit our overdrafts each month and have little to show for working so hard
I feel abit pissed off that I will be working an extra day a week and will have very little to show for it, if I am to give him half of that days pay.
Who do you think is being unreasonable?
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HarryDan · 07/08/2011 13:16
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