To feel nothing but contempt for my aquaintance after she told me this

[ScarlettIsWalking]

A lady who lives on my road -let's call her D- popped into to drop something to me and I invited her to stay for tea. We got talking about people in the area as I am getting to know people and she told me she had been to visit another lady -let's call her B- on the road and during the conversation asked her if she had any children. B then got very upset and omitted that she had a child who had very sadly passed away .

D said to me - "I thought thanks a fucking bunch for making me feel like shit after I tried to make conversation with you".

AIBU to think this kind of reaction to such a sad moment could only come from someone deeply, deeply lacking in any shred of empathy and humanity? Because that's how I feel about her and I am finding it hard to get past and continue any kind of potential friendship.

[kittensliveupstairs]

Did she admit or omit?
TBH, I think that D is probably embarassed abut the whole episode. I don't know why you would feel contempt for her though.

[Mitmoo]

What a nasty cruel bjtch, having lost a niece I know just how hard it can be to stop yourself from bursting into tears.

Was she definately being serious and not having a bad bash at humour?

[youarekidding]

I think I would rather try and make friends with B than D tbh.

[ScarlettIsWalking]

no she wasn't being humorous - she seemed cross with B for what she felt was putting her in an awkward situation

I suppose I just feel that B must have broken down and needed symapthy but D just got annoyed which I find cruel

[LineRunner]

Sounds like a wrong attempt at humour about an episode that she didn't handle well. Cruel streak, though, for sure. The ego has landed and all that.

[BigHairyGruffalo]

YANBU, how cruel

[MissPenteuth]

Yikes. Some people just turn everything round and make it about themselves, don't they? I agree OP, I'd have to think twice about befriending someone who couldn't find it within themselves to feel compassion for a bereaved parent.

[Robins]

Forgive me, I don't mean to sound flippant or rude, but have read the post a few times and don't quite understand it. Were you three ladies together at the time? Is one lady repeating another conversation she had had with another lady while there is just two of you together???

[izzywhizzyletsgetbusy]

It seems that D has given you a glimpse of her true colours.

Anyone who is that insensitive may continue to feautre on my 'acquaintance list', but I could never become close friends with anyone who revealed sensitive information about another party without their express consent and in such a callous manner.

[Robins]

It's okay, got it now! Would feel like backing off too! Alarm bells would be ringing!

[Mitmoo]

Nowt so queer as folk as my mother says.

[deemented]

D sounds like a right cunt.

If she's said that to you, god only knows what she said to the face of the bereaved mother...

[BecauseImWorthIt]

Mitmoo - why don't you just type 'bitch'? Why do you feel the need to 'disguise' it somehow?

Scarlett - that seems like a very odd reaction, and very callous.

[DontGoCurly]

Wow, she sounds horrible.

As if the death of another womans child was a bummer for her. Serious lack of empathy.

[blowthewindsoutherly]

Theres a blog about this kind of thing. But we're not allowed to talk about it on here.

[Robins]

The omit and admit confused me too but didn't like to say.

[Mitmoo]

because I'm It's a habit I use other sites where the word bitch is blocked so you have to disguise it. It's just an overhang from switching between sites.

[HarperSeven]

Hello sociopath.

[izzywhizzyletsgetbusy]

Needless to say, in any future conversations you may have with D, you're best advised to be extremely circumspect with regard to any information you give her about your life/family etc.

[ScarlettIsWalking]

sorry - admitted don't know why I wrote omit

Glad that I am not the only one that would react by not particularly wanting to pal up with her!

[InstantAtom]

YANBU :(