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To feel nothing but contempt for my aquaintance after she told me this

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ScarlettIsWalking Sat 06-Aug-11 20:26:37

A lady who lives on my road -let's call her D- popped into to drop something to me and I invited her to stay for tea. We got talking about people in the area as I am getting to know people and she told me she had been to visit another lady -let's call her B- on the road and during the conversation asked her if she had any children. B then got very upset and omitted that she had a child who had very sadly passed away sad.

D said to me - "I thought thanks a fucking bunch for making me feel like shit after I tried to make conversation with you".

AIBU to think this kind of reaction to such a sad moment could only come from someone deeply, deeply lacking in any shred of empathy and humanity? Because that's how I feel about her and I am finding it hard to get past and continue any kind of potential friendship.

kittensliveupstairs Sat 06-Aug-11 20:28:16

Did she admit or omit?
TBH, I think that D is probably embarassed abut the whole episode. I don't know why you would feel contempt for her though.

Mitmoo Sat 06-Aug-11 20:28:35

What a nasty cruel bjtch, having lost a niece I know just how hard it can be to stop yourself from bursting into tears.

Was she definately being serious and not having a bad bash at humour?

youarekidding Sat 06-Aug-11 20:29:38

I think I would rather try and make friends with B than D tbh.

ScarlettIsWalking Sat 06-Aug-11 20:33:38

no she wasn't being humorous - she seemed cross with B for what she felt was putting her in an awkward situation confused

I suppose I just feel that B must have broken down and needed symapthy but D just got annoyed which I find cruel

LineRunner Sat 06-Aug-11 20:34:03

Sounds like a wrong attempt at humour about an episode that she didn't handle well. Cruel streak, though, for sure. The ego has landed and all that.

BigHairyGruffalo Sat 06-Aug-11 20:40:56

YANBU, how cruel sad

MissPenteuth Sat 06-Aug-11 20:42:16

Yikes. Some people just turn everything round and make it about themselves, don't they? I agree OP, I'd have to think twice about befriending someone who couldn't find it within themselves to feel compassion for a bereaved parent.

Robins Sat 06-Aug-11 20:44:44

Forgive me, I don't mean to sound flippant or rude, but have read the post a few times and don't quite understand it. Were you three ladies together at the time? Is one lady repeating another conversation she had had with another lady while there is just two of you together???

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy Sat 06-Aug-11 20:46:28

It seems that D has given you a glimpse of her true colours.

Anyone who is that insensitive may continue to feautre on my 'acquaintance list', but I could never become close friends with anyone who revealed sensitive information about another party without their express consent and in such a callous manner.

Robins Sat 06-Aug-11 20:47:46

It's okay, got it now! Would feel like backing off too! Alarm bells would be ringing!

Mitmoo Sat 06-Aug-11 20:48:23

Nowt so queer as folk as my mother says.

deemented Sat 06-Aug-11 20:49:00

D sounds like a right cunt.

If she's said that to you, god only knows what she said to the face of the bereaved mother...

BecauseImWorthIt Sat 06-Aug-11 20:50:05

Mitmoo - why don't you just type 'bitch'? Why do you feel the need to 'disguise' it somehow?

Scarlett - that seems like a very odd reaction, and very callous.

DontGoCurly Sat 06-Aug-11 20:52:00

Wow, she sounds horrible.

As if the death of another womans child was a bummer for her. Serious lack of empathy.

blowthewindsoutherly Sat 06-Aug-11 20:55:28

Theres a blog about this kind of thing. But we're not allowed to talk about it on here.

Robins Sat 06-Aug-11 20:56:18

The omit and admit confused me too but didn't like to say.

Mitmoo Sat 06-Aug-11 20:58:36

because I'm It's a habit I use other sites where the word bitch is blocked so you have to disguise it. It's just an overhang from switching between sites.

HarperSeven Sat 06-Aug-11 20:59:08

Hello sociopath.

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy Sat 06-Aug-11 21:03:58

Needless to say, in any future conversations you may have with D, you're best advised to be extremely circumspect with regard to any information you give her about your life/family etc.

ScarlettIsWalking Sat 06-Aug-11 21:10:40

sorry - admitted don't know why I wrote omit hmm

Glad that I am not the only one that would react by not particularly wanting to pal up with her!

InstantAtom Sat 06-Aug-11 21:14:22


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