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Is there a law that means I am the only who can decide what we have for dinner?

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carocaro Sat 06-Aug-11 16:51:51

Is there? Where is it? In the Magna Carter, Domesday Book? Can someone show me that it is the law of the land that only Mum's can decide on what to have for tea and all thy betrothed and thy off-spring stand there gormlessly without thought or opinion.

nickschick Sat 06-Aug-11 16:54:04

oh god i so get this.

I hate it.

Dh will say oh I dunno what do you fancy?

It really gets me angry then I say chilli? they all say ohh no dont fancy that ......jacket potatoes? oh no I dont fancy that and on it goes and it pisses me off.

CMOTdibbler Sat 06-Aug-11 16:54:19

No idea from anyone else means you get to choose something you really like and no one else is keen on. I always head to the kitchen saying 'right, macaroni cheese then' and amazingly ideas appear

IslaValargeone Sat 06-Aug-11 16:54:27

I cannot direct you to written proof, but the law of which you speak does exist apparantly. Maybe it's part of Britain's unwritten constitution?

yes it is the law. What can I have for dinner tonight?

IslaValargeone Sat 06-Aug-11 16:57:11

chilli?

nickschick Sat 06-Aug-11 16:58:59

chilli con carne I meant nobody likes it in my house cept me grin.

nickschick Sat 06-Aug-11 16:59:37

oh did u mean in reply to flying spagmonster ...if so i bet her family have said oh no dont fancy that Mum.

DizzyKipper Sat 06-Aug-11 17:01:13

We have a rather loose meal plan in place, which means we try to balance out between our intake of poultry, fish, red meat and veggie dishes. I generally have an idea of what we should be eating when so just say "you mind x tonight?" to which he invariably answers yes. It's just lucky I have such a short repertoire of recipes for all these meat types or I'd then be in trouble (and I remember the days of spending at least an hour before I'd gathered this repertoire looking through different recipes trying to pick out something he'd like, usually not getting much in the way of helpful responses - which led to me begging PLEASE just say something you'd like/pick out the meal or else I'll be here for ages trying to come up with something!). Erm, so that's a yes, I believe there is a law somewhere or other.

storminabuttercup Sat 06-Aug-11 17:01:35

It's the same here!

I'm also the only one who can find things too

IslaValargeone Sat 06-Aug-11 17:03:12

Yes nickschick grin

carocaro Sat 06-Aug-11 17:03:35

Now DH is in a huff and flicking through recipe books, which IS ridiculous as it is 5pm and the children will be hungry at about 5.30?

Maryz Sat 06-Aug-11 17:03:46

I have this too. And it doesn't matter what I cook they eat it without comment.

I sometimes wonder if they would notice if I cooked spag bog for two weeks in a row. I might try that hmm.

Even if dh shops I have to tell him what we are eating or else he buys half the supermarket, but no meals.

carocaro Sat 06-Aug-11 17:04:24

I can hear him now telling eldest DH that we could make Spanish tapas!

OMG I laughing my head off, we have nothing to make that!

carocaro Sat 06-Aug-11 17:06:11

Or apparently French and there is some mention of asparagus..... what on earth?!

LineRunner Sat 06-Aug-11 17:09:59

Son: what's for tea?

Me: I do not know, my love; what's in the freezer?

Son: [not budging an inch] I dunno.

saythatagain Sat 06-Aug-11 17:10:10

Would you care to share your loose meal plan dizzykipper? Only, I'm the only one in our household who gets the most envious job of deciding every friggin' meal.....lucky old me!

Maryz Sat 06-Aug-11 17:16:38

I have a loose and unbelievably boring meal plan. Day 1 Spag bog. Day 2 Roast Chicken. Day 3 Chicken and pasta and some sort of sauce. Day 4 Pork Chops. Day 5 Stew. Day 6 Whatever is left over or something frozen (fish or fish fingers usuall). Day 7 Salad/bits and pieces or on a good weekend a takeaway (in other words, I refuse to cook).

I like it when my teenagers decide it is boring and cook themselves - ds1 does a mean Thai curry, dd specialises in Spag carbonara, and ds2 makes a mean mixed salad.

Unfortunately it is rare.

GhoulLasher Sat 06-Aug-11 17:22:01

Yes there is...here too....so tonight I said bugger it and went outto get fih and chips and mushy peas.

[plump emoticon]

notso Sat 06-Aug-11 17:23:14

Gah, YAtotallyNBU.

Hate it.
This happens most days here,
ME: <brightly>> What shall we have for tea today?
DH: Dunno babe, [insert name of whatever we have just eaten]?
ME: had that yesterday.
DH: Oh dunno then.
DD: Can we have Domino's?
ME: No
DS1:I'll cook from the Star Wars cookbook <<helpful smile, launches into recipe for Wookie Cookies>>
ME: What about [insert anything we have ingredients for]
DH, DD & DS1 Naaaah don't fancy that.
ME: angry

LifeOfKate Sat 06-Aug-11 17:25:59

Ooo, this is DH's job in my house grin

Don't worry, I'm not smug, he is useless in every other aspect grin Particularly finding things, we have endless conversations which culminate in me looking in the cupboard/drawer he has just 'looked' in and finding item he is looking for within seconds hmm

Marlinspike Sat 06-Aug-11 17:26:41

If DH cooks it's always pasta - then that removes pasta as a quick & brainless option for any other night of the week for me....

I find myself getting in a real meal rut... compounded by never quite knowing how many I am cooking for (just stayimg at XX's for tea; have had a big lunch and am not hungry; going out later and will get myself a sandwich after...)

The only one who was easy to feed and seemed quite grateful for what she was given was our cat, but she's dead now (nothing to do with her food, honest!)

BertieBotts Sat 06-Aug-11 17:29:00

When he gets the recipe books out, say "Oh good, you can decide what we're having for the rest of the week then. Right, need something quick tonight, fish fingers it is."

kittensliveupstairs Sat 06-Aug-11 17:34:52

I made this comment to my DH many times over the years.
What do you fancy for tea?
I don't know
Have a think
I don't know, whatever you fancy
What about [insert meal here]?
No, I don't like that
Well, what do you want?
i don't know
ad infinitum.
Now he has gone back to Belgium, me and DD are having Auntie Bessie's toad in the hole with frozen mash and frozen peas.

GeraldineAubergine Sat 06-Aug-11 17:37:17

To fix this you can just say 'gizzards and jam' or 'offal with a raspberry coulis'. people will be bursting with ideas then.

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