To hate the phrase "X months/weeks gone"?

[BertieBotts]

And variations thereof. "How far gone is she?" "How far gone are you?" Hate the way it sounds like you're either dying or trying to work out if it's too late to have an abortion. It's just pregnancy, not the end of your life or anything.

Am probably being grumpy but it's irrationally annoyed me for years.

[madhattershouse]

Gotta be better than "how long have you been cooking for then??" or "when did that happen?"

[AgentZigzag]

How far gone you are doesn't bother me, but I do try not to say I'm going to put DD2 down.

Just in case anyone got the wrong end of the stick

[AmberLeaf]

I dont mind that one so much

'havent you dropped that baby yet' really makes me want to punch someone though.

[limitedperiodonly]

Don't know why, but I hate it too.

[madhattershouse]

Ooh, just rememberes I was talking to a friend the other day, 9months pregnant, and a friend of hers walks up and says "Haven't you emptied yet"

[BertieBotts]

Emptied?? What a lovely mental image

[Popbiscuit]

Agree Bertie. The phrase has slightly naughty, gym-slip mother undertones.

[posterofawolef]

Not as bad as men announcing that 'we' are pregnant.

[Popbiscuit]

[MightyQuim]

Or that you have 'fallen' pregnant.

[KateBC]

I have a friend who refers to it as 'getting caught' pregnant.

Blech

[rooks14]

I don'tmind it. I hate "when's he due?" or "when's he going to arrive?" as if he'll just appear one day without any effort from me...

[SpareRoomSleeper]

I detest the "we" are pregnant one from men too.

we are not pregnant. You, mate, have donated a sperm cell.

She, on the other hand, has another human being growing inside her womb, something you can never ever do, and after nine months, she, is going to squeeze it out of her vagina, something which you will never ever have. So don't try to kid yourself, ok mate?

[SpareRoomSleeper]

Oh, and I hate "emptied" and "dropped". Vile. And derogatory

[SpareRoomSleeper]

[having a grumpy morning before fasting time begins again]

[Continuum]

I think I hate most pregnancy related questions actually, even ones that probably seem mild. This week was, "ooh you're carrying low, did you carry low with ds?" I don't fucking know!!! I have too much to do/worry about than analyse my fucking bump!!

But that's still better than the patting and the... rubbing... WTF?!? When did my body suddenly become public property?!?

Been dealing with insomnia... I may be a tad grumpy!

[Melly20MummyToPoppy]

My BIL kept asking me "Why don't you just push it out now?" did my head in. I could never think of a witty response though so just usually responded with a stony glare.

[happyteetotal]

Where I don't like the term 'we' are pregnant, I find the comment that the man has merely donated a sperm cell very offensive. It's hardly their fault they biologically can't give birth.

[Continuum]

Man donated sperm offensive?!? It's just a fact! They don't have to go through the many many changes and the toll it takes on your body, nevermind the potential damage.

That is all dh has donated biologically to the biological process that is pregnancy!

Now there are shared worries/nervousness/changes ahead etc. etc. But there's no freaking way I'm thinking, oh poor man, what about your poor feelings because your contribution to physically growing this child until birth and going through birth was a sperm!!

[Nettee]

what about supporting and worrying about his dp? and being there for the labour and being powerless to change the situation for the person he loves. Not that I am saying fathers are "poor" but involved - hopefully yes and that is a good thing.

[LineRunner]

Melly20, the witty response to your BiL is, of course, the enduring 'And why don't you just fuck off?'

HTH

[SpareRoomSleeper]

Oh for goodness sake, get a grip to those who find it offensive I said men merely donate a sperm in pregnancy! Because that is all they do whether you like it or not
We were talking about pregnancy here, and men saying 'we' are pregnant, and biologically that us incorrect and it sounds twattish to say the least. We were not talking about supportive dhs/dps, or however else they contribute after the birth .

[CBear6]

DH says "we're going to have another baby in September" which to me is fine because we are but he would never say "we're pregnant". He's told me in the past that it's me who is pregnant, he's just a bystander until the baby arrives. It's not that he's not supportive, he's very supportive and he's picking up a lot of the slack now I'm slowing down, he just knows that the physical part of pregnancy is my ball game.

I remember my brother telling me that if men gave birth there'd be no epidurals, no 12 months of maternity leave, and they'd be back at work later the same day. I actually love my SIL for telling him to shut his mouth :)

[BertieBotts]

ROFL. If men gave birth they would have invented something better than an epidural, and maternity leave would be 21 months at full pay (encompassing all of the pregnancy AND twelve months to recover and/or breastfeed)

[mayorquimby]

I dunno SRS while I'd agree with your point your choice of phrase may lead some to view it as slightly dismissive/distancing of the mans involvment. A bit like saying "all the woman is doing is incubating" or as though you're making something of a martyr out of women for being the ones who give birth. After all it's equally true to say, women are just doing what their bodies are bilogically designed to do. so they should stop moaning or expecting any praise for doing something which billions of others have done throughout the history of mankind.

• caveat this is not what I actually think, just providing a polemic as to how we can use universal truths as a basis for dismissive language.