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To hate the phrase "X months/weeks gone"?

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BertieBotts Sat 06-Aug-11 00:00:58

And variations thereof. "How far gone is she?" "How far gone are you?" Hate the way it sounds like you're either dying or trying to work out if it's too late to have an abortion. It's just pregnancy, not the end of your life or anything.

Am probably being grumpy but it's irrationally annoyed me for years.

madhattershouse Sat 06-Aug-11 00:02:37

Gotta be better than "how long have you been cooking for then??" or "when did that happen?" grin

AgentZigzag Sat 06-Aug-11 00:05:42

How far gone you are doesn't bother me, but I do try not to say I'm going to put DD2 down.

Just in case anyone got the wrong end of the stick grin

AmberLeaf Sat 06-Aug-11 00:10:00

I dont mind that one so much

'havent you dropped that baby yet' really makes me want to punch someone though.

limitedperiodonly Sat 06-Aug-11 00:12:44

Don't know why, but I hate it too.

madhattershouse Sat 06-Aug-11 00:14:00

Ooh, just rememberes I was talking to a friend the other day, 9months pregnant, and a friend of hers walks up and says "Haven't you emptied yet" <bleuch>

BertieBotts Sat 06-Aug-11 00:18:45

Emptied?? What a lovely mental image confused

Popbiscuit Sat 06-Aug-11 00:19:57

Agree Bertie. The phrase has slightly naughty, gym-slip mother undertones.

posterofawolef Sat 06-Aug-11 00:21:38

Not as bad as men announcing that 'we' are pregnant. <itchy teeth>

Popbiscuit Sat 06-Aug-11 00:26:44


MightyQuim Sat 06-Aug-11 01:42:12

Or that you have 'fallen' pregnant.

KateBC Sat 06-Aug-11 01:53:04

I have a friend who refers to it as 'getting caught' pregnant.


rooks14 Sat 06-Aug-11 02:09:32

I don'tmind it. I hate "when's he due?" or "when's he going to arrive?" as if he'll just appear one day without any effort from me...

SpareRoomSleeper Sat 06-Aug-11 02:54:37

I detest the "we" are pregnant one from men too.

we are not pregnant. You, mate, have donated a sperm cell.

She, on the other hand, has another human being growing inside her womb, something you can never ever do, and after nine months, she, is going to squeeze it out of her vagina, something which you will never ever have. So don't try to kid yourself, ok mate? hmm

SpareRoomSleeper Sat 06-Aug-11 02:56:57

Oh, and I hate "emptied" and "dropped". Vile. And derogatory angry

SpareRoomSleeper Sat 06-Aug-11 02:57:52

[having a grumpy morning before fasting time begins again]

Continuum Sat 06-Aug-11 05:39:26

I think I hate most pregnancy related questions actually, even ones that probably seem mild. This week was, "ooh you're carrying low, did you carry low with ds?" I don't fucking know!!! I have too much to do/worry about than analyse my fucking bump!!

But that's still better than the patting and the... rubbing... WTF?!? When did my body suddenly become public property?!?

Been dealing with insomnia... I may be a tad grumpy!

Melly20MummyToPoppy Sat 06-Aug-11 06:15:49

My BIL kept asking me "Why don't you just push it out now?" did my head in. I could never think of a witty response though so just usually responded with a stony glare.

happyteetotal Sat 06-Aug-11 06:19:41

Where I don't like the term 'we' are pregnant, I find the comment that the man has merely donated a sperm cell very offensive. It's hardly their fault they biologically can't give birth.

Continuum Sat 06-Aug-11 10:16:04

Man donated sperm offensive?!? It's just a fact! They don't have to go through the many many changes and the toll it takes on your body, nevermind the potential damage.

That is all dh has donated biologically to the biological process that is pregnancy!

Now there are shared worries/nervousness/changes ahead etc. etc. But there's no freaking way I'm thinking, oh poor man, what about your poor feelings because your contribution to physically growing this child until birth and going through birth was a sperm!!

Nettee Sat 06-Aug-11 10:26:26

what about supporting and worrying about his dp? and being there for the labour and being powerless to change the situation for the person he loves. Not that I am saying fathers are "poor" but involved - hopefully yes and that is a good thing.

LineRunner Sat 06-Aug-11 11:42:47

Melly20, the witty response to your BiL is, of course, the enduring 'And why don't you just fuck off?'


SpareRoomSleeper Sat 06-Aug-11 12:29:56

Oh for goodness sake, get a grip to those who find it offensive I said men merely donate a sperm in pregnancy! Because that is all they do whether you like it or not
hmm We were talking about pregnancy here, and men saying 'we' are pregnant, and biologically that us incorrect and it sounds twattish to say the least. We were not talking about supportive dhs/dps, or however else they contribute after the birth .

CBear6 Sat 06-Aug-11 12:57:43

DH says "we're going to have another baby in September" which to me is fine because we are but he would never say "we're pregnant". He's told me in the past that it's me who is pregnant, he's just a bystander until the baby arrives. It's not that he's not supportive, he's very supportive and he's picking up a lot of the slack now I'm slowing down, he just knows that the physical part of pregnancy is my ball game.

I remember my brother telling me that if men gave birth there'd be no epidurals, no 12 months of maternity leave, and they'd be back at work later the same day. I actually love my SIL for telling him to shut his mouth smile

BertieBotts Sat 06-Aug-11 13:20:58

ROFL. If men gave birth they would have invented something better than an epidural, and maternity leave would be 21 months at full pay (encompassing all of the pregnancy AND twelve months to recover and/or breastfeed) wink

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