Advanced search

A trivial WWYD

(21 Posts)
outthere Fri 05-Aug-11 09:37:40

I'm 24 weeks pregnant and have 2 older boys. DH has a friend to stay next weekend and they want to take the boys to see some car racing.

The trivial dilemma is that I don't know whether to go with them or not.

On one hand I'd love to go, it might be fun and I think the boys will love it, I can't wait to see the excitment on their little faces.

On the other hand I think I should take the rare opportunity of having a rest, pottering round the house. I've been exhausted lately and although still relatively early in my pregnancy I've been having a lot of Braxton Hicks and should probably take it easy (previous pre-term delivery).

If I go I'll probably wish I'd stayed home to relax a bit and if I stay I think I'll feel guilty all day wishing I could be sharing the experience with my boys (which is a first for them)...


CheerMum Fri 05-Aug-11 09:40:12

personally, i'd stock up on nice goodies and a good dvd and send the boys off to have some fun, then i'd put my feet up and chill x

Tortington Fri 05-Aug-11 09:41:08

i would stay at home, put ont he radio and eat chocolate.

potoftea Fri 05-Aug-11 09:41:51

This is exactly the kind of no-win situation I get myself into. Eventually choose one course of action, and think I should've done the other!!

I'd stay home and relax if I were you. There will be a million times ahead to see the delight on your boys faces about things they do, and in fact you not being there will make the day last longer, as when they get home they'll have to tell their enthralled mother every moment of their day.

And it may be nice for your dh to be the only parent there in front of his friend, so can be the big daddy guy.

alowVeraWithPurpleTwuntyPants Fri 05-Aug-11 09:47:01

Is DH's friend bringing gf/DW?

If not, have a lovely day off. Unless of course you want to go?

Collision Fri 05-Aug-11 09:49:25

Take a break!

Watch crap telly and eat lovely food.

Is what I would do................

outthere Fri 05-Aug-11 09:59:42

Hehe, now this is the kind of advice I like!! grin

potoftea that's a really good point about them being able to come home and tell me about it - makes me feel much better!

And also agree that I think DH might want it to be a boys' day out as his friend is coming alone. They're gonna look like a very modern family... grin

Thanks, helps ease my guilt to know that others would stay home too.

coastgirl Fri 05-Aug-11 10:05:38

I would let them have a boys' day - it's the sort of memory of doing something just with Dad that they'll treasure, and you'll feel so much better for a nice quiet rest. Let them take lots of photos and tell you all about them (at length, which they will!)

startail Fri 05-Aug-11 10:06:45

Go you'll watch far too much crap telly when the baby won't sleep

bubblesincoffee Fri 05-Aug-11 10:08:58

If I were you I'd plan something to do. If you don't want to meet up with a friend for luch or something, which would probably be my activity of choice, then you still have to plan the relaxing. Otherwise you will end up doing jobs that you could have done while they were all there.

If you want to stay home, then make sure you have a dvd in, whatever you want to eat, and a face mask or your favourite bubble bath or other smellies.

Or for ultimate relaxation, you could get dh to treat you to a facial or a massage (pregnancy safe one obviously). Book it early in the day then you will still have time to come home and veg!

TrillianAstra Fri 05-Aug-11 10:16:30

If you were not pregnant, and didn't have the "seeing the joy on their little faces" issue, would you want to go and watch car racing?

For me the answer is "no, I would not want to go watch car racing". So I would rather do something else. If car racing is your kind of thing then go.

Agree that you should plan the relaxing - make sure you have everything you need to have a lovely time.

nbee84 Fri 05-Aug-11 10:16:37

I was just going to say the same as Bubbles - plan your relaxing activities otherwise you'll end up doing lots of little 'jobs' that are easier without the children around grin

OhYouBadBadKitten Fri 05-Aug-11 10:22:56

I think that the time that children spend with their Dads is underestimated - see it as valuable bonding time smile

DottyDot Fri 05-Aug-11 10:26:59

this is a no brainer for me - definitely stay at home grin enjoy the peace and quiet, have a nap, watch telly - bliss!

I have 2 boys and am not any weeks pregnant, but if there's ever a chance dp and ds's are out at the same time and I'm not actually needed/it's not a family holiday-type trip out, I'm pretty much shovelling them out of the door blush

Andrewofgg Fri 05-Aug-11 10:27:47

Don't go, men's day out for them, and rest!

Kladdkaka Fri 05-Aug-11 10:29:58

Stay at home. Then the boys get to relive their excitement all over again when they come barging in the door bubbling over with news to share with you.

emmanumber3 Fri 05-Aug-11 10:33:58

As a heavily pregnant mum of 2 older boys I would say stay at home, pamper yourself, and sell the day out to the boys as a "father-son" day or a "boys day out". You need to take your rest where you can - especially as you've already had a pre-term delivery in the past. Enjoy smile.

Ephiny Fri 05-Aug-11 10:34:11

I would stay at home, it's lovely to have a quiet day to yourself to potter about or put your feet up.

I don't think motor racing makes a very good spectator sport anyway - I don't mind watching it on TV but can't imagine you get to see very much when you're actually there, except for the blur of a car whizzing past at high speed occasionally!

milkshakejake Fri 05-Aug-11 10:51:49

Stay at home and put your feet up smile

MalibuStac Fri 05-Aug-11 10:57:19

This exact thing happened to me when I was pg with dd, I chose to stay at home and had a lovely day relaxing and lazing about. The boys were happier I'd stayed at home as they spent time with their dad and also pointed out I was better off at home as there was a lot of walking and standing about. Enjoy your time off and look forward to all the stories they will have.

upahill Fri 05-Aug-11 11:02:43

Simple- if you love the racing and wasn't pregnant would you go?
If yes then go if no do somthing else.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now