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to feel even more offended by catcalls when I'm pregnant?

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GirlWithTheMouseyHair Thu 04-Aug-11 20:53:56

This is totally a rant, I personally am under no delusion I ANBU.

I hate the catcalls, wolf whistles and lewd remarks I get walking down the street by men up ladders, in cars, just walking along and hate hearing them made at other women too. I get embarassed by the very occasional "lovely smile" or whatever but so angry at the number of times I hear "get your tits out" or "lucky saddle" when cycling. Usually I go red and carry on walking or whatever.

Now however I'm 6months pregnant, and most of the time I catch a man about to say something or looking at me in that way, then they see the bump, THEY go red and look the other way. However some men just don't, and have even had "wish I'd put that in you" shouted at me. I just don't get how men think it's acceptable to talk to a bloody pregnant woman that way!

And this is not a "I'm so pretty, all the men catcall me" post, more often then not I look like a right dog's dinner when I get these comments. And hate to say it, but it's usually white van men too.

Mitmoo Thu 04-Aug-11 20:55:01

I long for those days to return, too old now.

caffevalium Thu 04-Aug-11 20:55:35

And this is not a "I'm so pretty, all the men catcall me" post

Of course it's not

<<<falls about laughing>>>

RitaMorgan Thu 04-Aug-11 20:58:54

Why on earth would you long for those days to return? Bizarre.

Yeah, yeah, women should be grateful for any male attention they get - however offensive, humiliating or aggressive.

GirlWithTheMouseyHair Thu 04-Aug-11 20:59:18

oh buggeration, i was trying to anticipate those comments, never fear! grin

OnlyWantsOne Thu 04-Aug-11 21:00:28

It's pretty grim.


Tell them to fuck off.

GirlWithTheMouseyHair Thu 04-Aug-11 21:00:33

that is, caffevalium's post....not ritamorgan

I do find it offensive, humiliating and aggressive to be told to get my tits out, sit on someone's dick and to be groped in the street

Mitmoo Thu 04-Aug-11 21:01:02

I am middle aged now, do you think it I could manage to stop a building site by walking passed it, that I wouldn't enjoy it now. Those days are gone.

Having builders leave flowers and notes on my car.

It was harmless fun. I enjoyed it. It's not going to happen again.

amothersplaceisinthewrong Thu 04-Aug-11 21:01:55

Just wave your little finger at them!

GirlWithTheMouseyHair Thu 04-Aug-11 21:02:09

it's not harmless fun though is it?

BluddyMoFo Thu 04-Aug-11 21:02:19

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Lizzylou Thu 04-Aug-11 21:04:12

Bloody hell Op, do they put viagra in the water where you live?

I have to say most amount of beeping/wit wooing I ever had was when I was pushing DS1 in the pram about 3mths post birth. I think that this was because I was walking like a demon everywhere so more likely to come across feral white van men and also because my BF breasts were disproportionately huge.

Mitmoo Thu 04-Aug-11 21:04:22

girl wolfwhistles, flowers on cars, nice notes on cars were harmless fun, they didn't harm me, they made me smile. I'd love for it to happen now but those days are gone.

GirlWithTheMouseyHair Thu 04-Aug-11 21:05:55

yeah but not the same sort of thing the women in my area are subjected to, which is what the op is about! I've never had flowers or nice notes!!

GwendolineMaryLacey Thu 04-Aug-11 21:06:49

I had two incidences of minor road rage yesterday, one where the bloke in the car in front was yelling at me and making all sorts of gestures (he cut me up and nearly took the front off my car so I beeped him) and another bloke started hitting the car and swearing at me (he walked out in front of me in a car park, I was doing about 3 mph but he wasn't looking). Both incidences I would have shrugged off as them being tossers but, being pg they both really upset me and I felt very vulnerable. I thought the thread would be more about that sort of thing.

Are women supposed to let anyone away with crap behaviour and not say anything to avoid being hassled or what?

RitaMorgan Thu 04-Aug-11 21:07:13

The OP is talking about men shouting at her in the street, not flowers and nice notes Mitmoo.

Mitmoo Thu 04-Aug-11 21:09:45

RITA The OP has described some foul comments I am just making the point that not all catcalling is unwelcome.

RitaMorgan Thu 04-Aug-11 21:09:49

Men don't shout vulgar things at pregnant women because they would really like to take them on a nice date, they do it to intimidate them or for their own amusement.

BulletWithAName Thu 04-Aug-11 21:11:08

I generally ignore it when men do this to me, but when I'm with my DC's and it happens, it's cringeworthy.

Lizzylou Thu 04-Aug-11 21:11:32

Girl, that level of harassment would really make me offended and feel threatened. I was massively offended by the beeps when I was pushing DS1's pram, because I just felt all sort of wholesome being with my baby and felt that they were sullying that. I'd never beep an attractive man, let alone ask to see his genitalia. Where on earth do you live? Those men sound like neanderthals.

I have never been a "flowers left on car" type of looker in all honesty and I was not flattered in the least by beeps/wit woos. Just made me feel self-conscious and nasty.

GirlWithTheMouseyHair Thu 04-Aug-11 21:12:30

Fine mitmoo, I personally don't welcome any catcalling (well, not come into contact with any I would welcome!), so we can agree to disagree - but don't you think it would at least be disrespectful to wolf whistle a pregnant woman?

GirlWithTheMouseyHair Thu 04-Aug-11 21:13:00

south west London...

Lizzylou Thu 04-Aug-11 21:13:54

I am sorry that you have to deal with that Girl, I really am.

lovinme Thu 04-Aug-11 21:15:38

I know what you mean it happens to me aswell even when I'm with my DP.I can remember when I was about 12 some creep stopped right in front of me and looked me up and down and said phwoar look at that,I was sooo mortified I just stood there.

ClaireDeLoon Thu 04-Aug-11 21:15:47

"wish I'd put that in you"

That's vile. No woman would ever want to hear that, it's beyond horrible. No wonder you are upset.

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