I'm not anti-football at all & am a loyal supporter (albeit from the comfort of my sofa) of the not so mighty Hammers!
DH has always been passionate about his footy from a v young age & I can't complain about that at all. We all have our interests & I knew how absorbed he could get by it all before we got serious.
However, his interest has become a bit more time-consuming lately as he has started writing posts for a Tottenham blog. These have ranged from general discussions about matters surrounding the club to full-blown match reports.
Already I can see the amount of time this is going to take up &, what with his other hobby of golf, I'm worried our weekends are going to be swallowed up completely by sport.
Maybe I'm being selfish & I should relax about it all but I can't help feeling a little bit like all the 'free time' is centred around his interests.
No, YANBU. Though I'm very grateful that DH has decided to go for half-price Sky Sports offer rather than season ticket, the constant Sky Sports News and red button viewing is already getting me down, and PL hasn't even begun yet [sob]
You make a very good point about DH's poor choice of team dreamingbohemian
I could speak to him about only playing golf in the off-season of footy but that's really only a few weeks.
The thing is bananasplits it quite often stops us doing anything 'big' as a family at the weekend because we can't go out until he's made his FF team changes & then we have to be back in time for kick-off!
I'm with you on the Sky Sports News lindy100 - if he 'flicks over' in the ad break one more time I'll go mad - he always turns back too late.
I think you've hit the nail on the head CurrySpice - we both have things we want to do as individuals & that the other person isn't interested in. Equally there are things we want to do as a family. At the moment it feels as though the time is definitely not being allocated evenly.
NOw DH and I are both big football fans of different teams so going to games often means we are busy on opposite weekends, which has been a pain in the past. I would be a bit annoyed though if fantasy football was part of that (he can do his transfers and team selection on a Friday afternoon when he's on his lunch break!!) and it's possible to check scores on a phone via the BBC and Sky Sports websites. Would he consider doing this if you had a particular 'thing' to do at the weekend? It feels unfair that he would expect you to do all of the childcare at weekends and also to go without family time because he needs to be at home during the match.
I see why you are apprehensive so don't think you are being unreasonable in your concern.
In that case, I think you should ask him to triage his football weekends a bit and set aside as many chunks of time as you can for family things. I mean, obviously he's not going to want to miss Spurs losing to playing Arsenal but some matches are more important than others, the early stages of Carling Cup are no big deal, sometimes Tottenham will play on Mondays...
I don't think it's reasonable for him to never miss a single minute of football action all weekend. So I would be asking him to choose which weekends he will care about the least and plan things for then.
I can't wait for Football Season to start again. I like watching Spurs nearly as much as dh does. And ds1(7) and ds2(2) are totally into it too. Am a bit worreid thta we just won't have time for anything else.
I can understand that's tricky Truffkin - I have suggested to him before that he does his FF on a Fri pm but got a scornful look as apparently he needs to know the starting line-ups where possible (rolling my eyes here). I don't quite get why as he has Super Subs. On occasion when we have gone out during a reasonably important match his incessant phone checking has driven me slightly insane.
I will certainly be joining that FF league dreamingbohemian & I like your idea of him giving priority to certain matches (like against you Gooners ) and freeing up time elsewhere.
emptyshell you have just described the kind of afternoon I have experienced all too often and am dreading!
I like your idea ChaoticAngel as, tbh, we were thinking of having some kind of 'rota' in place anyway where we can each plan individual things to get some time to ourselves, as well as plan some good family activities. A rota sounds more formal than what I mean but you get the gist I'm sure
I don't really mind it if I'm honest Clinging as I am equally interested but we don't have young DCs who need looking after / entertaining! Our first is due to arrive in November and I'm looking forward to enjoying the last few months of lazy Saturday's in front of Jeff & co, although our teams are now in different leagues since his got relegated last season, so that means a slightly more challenging fixture list (but no playing each other, which helps with maintaining marital harmony )
Totally agree with prioritising fixtures. Once the baby is here, we will need to be cutting down on weekend away trips as we can't expect the other person to spend lots of time caring for him or her alone and why have the baby if we're going to miss out on family time as a 3? Still, all speculation for now and will see what happens in a few months!
Thank GOD we're nearly there. There last 12 weeks have been Hell. Climbing the walls I am [addicted emoticon] and much as I do love a bit of cricket, particularly at the moment, it doesn't punctuate the week in the way that footie does.