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About a year ago my DH had an affair, we've been working on our relationship and things are getting better, well actually we are happier than we've been in ages and I can see light at the end of the tunnel.
I'm posting in AIBU as I'd really like some opinions on, if I should talk to my DH about this or not?
So here goes.... When I found out about his affair we had some frank conversations and I thought I got most of the details, I went through the hurt, anger, etc etc but he's never been the 'talking about emotions type of guy' so although I got a lot of details I've always been left thinking he didn't tell me all, this is partly my fault as I'm not the type of person to push stuff (i'm getting better since then).
We've spoken about the details of the affair on and off now since it happened, and about 2 months ago I found out he'd been around to her house a few times whilst her DH was away, he admited this following a bit of a row we had, but is still adamant he didn't sleep with her.
During the 4 month affair I stayed with my Mum for a few weekends with DC, he worked a few nights, went on training courses and stayed in hotels, went out in the car on evening, general 'run of the mill - life stuff'. But the more I think about it, the more I'm convinced he'd seen her more than he admits to, and quite possibily 'has' slept with her. I now think that everytime he worked nights, or did go out or I wasn't there that he was seeing her - I think i'm getting a bit 'nutty' about it all
This continues to go round and round and round in my head and won't go away and is making me feel really shitty!!
So, AIBU to sit down with him, 12 months down the line and ask him if he did indeed see her more than he's admited to, or should I just simply let it go? Am I just digging up old ground or will it help me?
AIBU?
Should I bring this up with DH or not?
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