For as long as I can remember DH has always got out of bed at least twice during the night to go to the toilet, sometimes as much as 4 times. I'm a light sleeper so ALWAYS wake up when he does but he doesn't even TRY to be quiet. The other night for instance I woke up when he got out of bed, drifted straight back to sleep and then was awoken 5 minutes later by him rummaging around in the bedroom for an asthma inhaler as he "felt a bit wheezy". One time I was startled and woke up to hear him saying "oh for fucks sake", I asked what he was doing and he said "looking for my phone". This was something like 4am in the morning (he uses the phone as an alarm clock). I drifted off back to sleep and then the bedroom light went on so he could continue looking for the bloody thing. Its every night. For the past year I have suffered constant broken sleep because of him.
Last week he worked nights and I had the first night of unbroken sleep in years. I felt amazing the next day and realised what I'd been missing out on for so long. The whole week went by where I actually looked forward to going to bed and felt great upon waking.
Last night was the first night we were back in the same bed. We went to bed at 11pm. He woke me up at 12.15 by knocking his glass off the bedside table - followed by lots of loud whinging and moaning from him that the bedside tables were too high for the bed. I drifted off back to sleep and was awoken again at 2am by him going to the toilet. I drifted off back to sleep and was awoken again at 4am by him saying very loudly "WHAT WAS THAT NOISE?? DID YOU HEAR IT?" so I said "No, I was woken up by you, again." so he said "well I can't help it if I can hear something, can I." I drifted off back to sleep until he shouted "THERE!! DID YOU HEAR IT??" so at this point out of sheer frustration I shouted "NO JUST SHUT UP! OTHER PEOPLE ARE TRYING TO SLEEP! SHUT UP!" so he shouted "DONT SPEAK TO ME LIKE THAT!" so I shouted back "FOR FUCKS SAKE, LET ME SLEEP, PLEASE!" so he slung the covers off and went storming downstairs. I drifted off back to sleep eventually only to be woken up again by him getting back in bed and saying "must've been a cat outside or something".
This morning I overslept. Missed the bin men, feel like shit and have been snapping at the DCs all day because I am so tired. I know this is wrong but last night I could honestly see myself getting violent with him. It irritates me and annoys me much I just want to hit him. I can't sleep on the sofa as I have a bad back and we have no spare beds.
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To be feeling really bitter about DH causing me constant broken sleep?
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BigFishTinyFish · 01/08/2011 15:35
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