i told dh we needed a cleaner, to do the basic bathroom /kitchen/skirtign board cleaning etc, so I could get on wihtthe picking up and puttign away wihtout worrying about actual dirt growing. He sais we do not need one. When I asked him when he had last leaned a bathroom, he said he did not know how and neededlessons. He was not joiking. Is this unreasonable?
If financially you can afford it, it makes your life easier and more enjoyable then do it. if your dh thinks its all a bit of a joke then stop tidying up as of now and ask him to do it. he will soon get the message. don't forget also that your kids should be picking up and putting away as well not just you.
Not unreasonable to show him how to clean a bathroom. He may enjoy it enough to do it on a regular basis More likely <dons Mystic Meg outfit> he will go all Cillit Bang on you until the novelty wears off and then suggest you get a cleaner.
My DH needed lessons in EVERYTHING when we first moved in, for example he didn't know that toilets needed cleaning, he thought the flush did it
His Mum did/does everything for everyone, she gets up a 4am everyday to clean and iron. Even though younger BIL and my SIL have moved out she will still go round and clean SIL's whole house when she is at work, and will do BIL's washing when he has a quick work changeover because BIL's wife says she doesn't think she should have to do it.
Its a great idea. Thats my system. I do all the putting away, organising, and some cleaning. But once a week I have a cleaner to do the harder stuff, otherwise I would get completely overwhelmed as a single parent. It is like living in a hotel (for one night only!) I wouldn't bother (personally) to "ask" my husband but then again I don't have one!
I would rather have a cleaner than an annual holiday or clothes or make up.