Talk

Advanced search

to not give my reception child homework over the summer holidays

(89 Posts)
messybessie Sat 30-Jul-11 09:02:13

I appear to be the minority.

I'm not completely lax, I have bought him a scrapbook and asked him to draw a picture everyday and he can write something if he wants to.

We've been to the library and joined their summer reading scheme.

But, most of my other friends seem to have devised daily maths work, phonics work, formal handwriting
practice, proper reading plans.

I'm being slightly made to feel like I'm the only one who is not a complete loon.

fuzzysnout Sat 30-Jul-11 09:07:58

YANBU. Let the poor little chap enjoy his time at home with you. If they really are doing that & not just saying so in a competitve parenting type way then they are indeed loons. The clue is in the name: school holidays - relax and enjoy smile

eaglewings Sat 30-Jul-11 09:08:11

It is the Summer HOLIDAY!
Go with what you are already doing and feel sorry for the other kids.
In France they don't start school til year one and soon catch up, so let kids be kids IMO

mumto2andnomore Sat 30-Jul-11 09:10:34

Im a teacher and YANBU. Are your friends really all doing that much ? Sharing stories together is lovely,counting the stairs as you walk up them, playing I spy that sort of thing but not formal work !

HoneyPablo Sat 30-Jul-11 09:11:18

YANBU
It's the holidays. Relax and let him chill. Every opportunity is a learning opportunity. It's not all about sitting down to learn with a worksheet and a pencil (thank god!).

FidgetPie Sat 30-Jul-11 09:13:12

Your friends sound bonkers! (and overly competitive!)
Summer holidays (at any age) should be fun and involve lots of running about.
YANBU

lazylula Sat 30-Jul-11 09:14:56

I am letting ds1 determine what 'work' he does. We have joined the library reading thing, he has chosen to read a couple of the books, he has done some handwriting practice (again his choice) and some number practice. We went to the zoo yesterday, chatted about the animals as we would any time, talk about sonds ect in the car but all his choice.

handsomeharry Sat 30-Jul-11 09:15:58

Teacher here too. YANBU. I have never done any formal work with my DS over the holidays. When he was little he enjoyed being read to, helping with baking and gardening, going for days out.
It's a holiday.

Hope you enjoy it.

Mitmoo Sat 30-Jul-11 09:21:24

Poor kids - I'd feel sorry for them. Enjoy your holiday OP.

StrandedBear Sat 30-Jul-11 09:30:08

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Ismeyes Sat 30-Jul-11 09:32:30

I think lazylula has a point. YANBU to think parental timetabled daily work is over the top, but don't always assume that children who do 'homework' are not choosing to.

I'm sure I will be accused of stealth boasting and pushy parenting because 'real' children want to be running around etc, but DD (5) chooses to do this kind of 'work' daily. Yesterday she used some of her birthday money to buy some maths books in sainsburys and spent a couple of hours doing them. She also writes story after story and reads books too.

I'm sure if I described this to anyone it would make me sound pushy, but I don't care because I'm not justifying my DD's choices of how to spend her time to anyone else.

follyfoot Sat 30-Jul-11 09:35:05

Noooo, your friends sound quite bonkers. Formal handwriting practice shock

Enjoy your summer, it sounds wonderful.

handsomeharry Sat 30-Jul-11 09:37:39

'real' children Ismeyes? What do you mean?

Acekicker Sat 30-Jul-11 10:08:42

YANBU - DS school stop homework a couple of weeks before the end of term and I take this as a sign that we're done with homework for the Summer. The Reading Scheme is a great idea but tbh I wouldn't even push the 'picture a day' thing too much - there might be days where he just doesn't want to do that and I'd be fine with that.

On the other hand I'm possibly not the best advisor on this - DS school sent home a letter one time suggesting that simple card and dice games could help your child with maths. I cracked out some poker chips and we spent two hours at the kitchen table playing blackjack that weekend grin. In my defence another teacher (not at DS school) did say it was actually great maths practice as it includes counting on, subtraction, doubling, 'money' etc....

Marne Sat 30-Jul-11 10:14:06

No homework here, just fun fun fun grin, holidays are ment to be fun.

Both my dd's (5 and 7) like to read before bed and do the odd bit of writting but they wont be sitting down to do hand writing practice.

EdithWeston Sat 30-Jul-11 10:14:06

Sounds insane!

FWIW: all I did with mine is ensure they keep reading (important, but done for fun), and do some writing (eg the odd postcard) and perhaps some incidental maths (shops, recipes). That's plenty.

The first (and only) time I did more was the summer before the 11+ (and even then it was a bit haphazard! But seemed more important to keep their brains ticking over). But even then - on 20-30 mins a day from workbooks when I remembered - it seemed rather an unfair imposition. And that's for a child twice as old as the ones in OP!

EdithWeston Sat 30-Jul-11 10:15:58

acekicker: the DSes once went to a play scheme where they were taught poker during a rainy day. Sone parents were a bit shock but I thought it was great!

Darts is a brilliant good game for mental maths.

Acekicker Sat 30-Jul-11 10:23:47

Definitely EdithWeston! The best person I know at maths was the one who as a kid was out every weekend with his dad at the snooker or darts club, dogs, races etc. Subracting triple 17 from 146 is not easy to do in your head, nor is working out what you'll get if you back the winner each way for a fiver at 9/2!

Mrsdoasyouwouldbedoneby Sat 30-Jul-11 14:01:22

The only reason I am doing a little reading is because both summer holidays DS has suffered from "summer lag", so what to help prevent it this time. DD is sat next to me voluntarily filling in a maths work book... unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately for me..) it doesn't involve ratio etc I'd never be able to work out betting systems. Anyway, she is sulking cos I have told her to give it a rest. DS spends MOST of his time creating stories (he plans to sell them apparently...).

nenevomito Sat 30-Jul-11 14:10:17

My DC are doing work over the summer, but only cos the person looking after them is a teacher grin. Plenty of play and fun, but DS's reading has got further in the last two weeks then it did in the last two terms!

There's a lot of time to fill in the summer hols. Why not do some 'homework' type things as well as the rest?

mangomousse Sat 30-Jul-11 14:15:23

You are the one doing it right in my opinion. There's loads or ways you can keep him "ticking over" without doing formal work. We counted cars, played games, weighed out ingredients for cooking, counted stairs, played the abc game all sorts of informal easy going things but very little that involved sitting down at a table with a worksheet.

Are you sure that your friends are actually doing these things or are they just talking about it to make themselves feel better!!

Enjoy your DS being a child and let him do what children do best - play!!!

Sirzy Sat 30-Jul-11 14:18:41

You are doing things to keep his brain ticking over but without forcing learning - perfect IMO!

everlong Sat 30-Jul-11 14:28:20

We will/are having fun and lots of it. Days out, picnics, walks and bike rides etc plus going away on holiday for a couple of weeks too. But I am doing reading, writing and some number work with ds who has just finished reception. I am talking 20 mins a day for everything.

He's been off 3 weeks already and I can see an improvement in his writing.

6-8 weeks off school is a long time not do anything I would worry that my ds would fall behind when he returns to school. His teacher actually encouraged me to do this with ds at the end of term.

But I suppose it's each to their own.

forehead Sat 30-Jul-11 14:36:41

Well, i am going to be fLamed< forehead awaits flaming>
I have devised a daily timetable for my three dc's.
For me it is not about competing against others, it is about ensuring that my dc's continue to have some structure during the holidays.
I did the same last year and used the opportunity to fine tune their basic maths, Literacy etc.
There is loads of time for them to play, watch tv , FIGHT, play video games , visit family and friends. At the moment, my dc's are at the park with my dh.
Mt dc's are very confident academically,and i believe that it is due to the help i give tham during the holidays and throughout the year. If that makes me a 'pushy mum' so be it.

Littlefish Sat 30-Jul-11 15:30:33

I'm a teacher and I'm doing absolutely nothing academic with dd during the holidays. I'm aghast at those parents doing daily literacy or numeracy with their children (unless it is completely the child's own choice).

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now